It is important when pain comes our way to honor the experience, as it is usually a great teacher.
Honoring the experiences we have in our lives is an invaluable way to communicate with life, our greatest teacher. We do this when we take time at night to say what we are thankful for about our day and also when we write in a journal. Both of these acts involve consciously acknowledging the events of our lives so that they deepen our relationship to our experiences. This is important because it brings us into closer connection with life, and with the moment. Only when we acknowledge what’s happening to us can we truly benefit from life’s teachings.
It is especially important when pain comes our way to honour the experience because our natural tendency is to push it away and move past it as quickly as possible. We tend to want to brush it under the rug. Yet, if we don’t, it reveals itself to be a great friend and teacher. As counterintuitive qas it seems, we can honour pain by thanking it and by welcoming it into the space of our lives. We all know that often the more we resist something, the longer it persists. When we honour our pain, we do just the opposite of resisting it, and as a result, we create a world in which we can own the fullness of what life has to offer.
We can honour a painful experience by marking it in some way, bringing ourselves into a more conscious relationship with it. We might mark it by creating a work of art, performing a ritual, or undertaking some other significant act. Sometimes all we need to do is light a candle in honour of what we’ve gone through and what we’ve learned. No matter how small the gesture, it will be big enough to mark how our pain has transformed us, and to remind us to recognize and value all that comes our way in this life.