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SUICIDE ~ Broken soul ~

Suicide is complex. It usually occurs gradually, progressing from suicidal thoughts, to planning, to attempting suicide and finally dying by suicide.

Source: International Association for Suicide Prevention

Suicide remains a major gender and social inequality and is a devastating event for families and communities. There were 6,708 suicides in the UK and ROI in 2013. In 2013 22% of contacts with Samaritans UK (more than 600,000) involved individuals expressing suicidal feelings

We can choose to stand together in the face of a society which may often feel like a lonely and disconnected place, and we can choose to make a difference by making lives more liveable for those who struggle to cope. We believe we can do this because we know that people and organisations are stronger together. ~ The Samaritans: Working together to reduce suicide 2015-21

The male suicide rate is the highest since 2001. The suicide rate among men aged 45-59, 25.1 per 100,000, is the highest for this group since 1981.

Just over a month ago Poorna Bell, Executive Editor of the Huffington Post UK, lost her husband to suicide. This is her letter to him.

In the end, there really is only room for love.

My dear husband,

It has been nearly 30 days since you held the spark of your life between your hands and pressed them shut.

Since then, I have been trying to make sense of the world.

In Hinduism โ€“ a religion you wholeheartedly set about getting to know even though I had long lost my faith โ€“ we have an 11-day ceremony and a 30-day ceremony.

Iโ€™ve never understood what these were for. But perhaps they are to mark a set of realisations.

By 11 days, I was aware that your death had made me a different person.

Everything looked, smelled and tasted different. People that I had known for years now seemed like strangers in the midst of what I felt, and what I thought they could not possibly know about.

I saw you in everything. I saw you in the sea, imagining you in the shift, turn and swirl of water. I saw you at your graveside, in the freesias you so loved. I saw you in the birds you had encyclopaedic knowledge about, in the double rainbows that lit the sky the day we said goodbye to you.

You were a big, Kiwi man in real life, and yet I saw you in the most delicate of things.

I wondered about whether to write this to you, in such a public way. But I think considering how much we talked over the last year about mental illness and how strongly we felt that not talking about it in society contributed to the sense of shame and stigma that surrounds it, I know youโ€™d want me to do this. (I find myself doing that a lot: โ€˜Iโ€™m sure Rob would want me to eat that extra bar of chocolateโ€™ and other such important life decisions).

I know it because you felt very strongly about my ability to bang a big drum to raise awareness around depression โ€“ an illness that you battled with all of your life.

I know you wanted me to speak up, so that if anyone else needed a friend or someone to talk to, and was going through the same struggles as you, Iโ€™d be able to help them. Privately or publicly.

I know we both felt greatly that the silence around mental illness created such a toxic environment for men, who were expected to โ€“ in your words โ€“ โ€˜man up, suffer in silence and get on with itโ€™.

There is a lot I have discovered since you took your own life.

Firstly, while there is no hierarchy of death where one is better than the other, itโ€™s safe to say that living a long life is at the top while a short one is at the bottom. I donโ€™t know where suicide sits, but itโ€™s safe to say, it makes other people REALLY uncomfortable.

I was advised against telling people how you died. And in the initial bizarreness of picking your burial plot and coffin (and being asked whether Robert was an eco-friendly man), I erred on the side of caution.

But by this 30th day, I have realised when the worst, most devastating thing possible happens, you lose the energy to maintain any artifice.

There is also an indignance that rises in me. If you had died of cancer, would I have kept your death or the circumstances a secret? Of course not. There would have been fun runs and cupcakes to kick cancerโ€™s ass.

It was as if the method of your death implied weakness, when I know how hard you fought to stay in this world.

Despite the hand you were dealt, you achieved so much, you loved so deeply, you were gentle and kind and would help anyone who was struggling (even the homeless guy at our local bus shelter who you wanted to let stay on our couch), and you were also the most intelligent man I met โ€“ why would I not want to honour that?

And perhaps this speaks volumes about the mountain we have to climb in getting people to understand that mental illness is exactly the same as cancer. It is exactly the same as a cardiac arrest. No amount of love, medical care or money can help prevent it if itโ€™s terminal.

When someone dies from suicide, there is anger directed at the person in a way it isnโ€™t with physical illness. No one goes: โ€œOh, I canโ€™t BELIEVE Larry died of cancer, how could he?โ€

In the aftermath, a lot of people have said to me: โ€œIโ€™m angry at himโ€. There was a lot of that floating around: how you made that choice and left us mired in such deep grief. There was anger at the life you had given up and the people you had left behind.

And perhaps while this is a completely natural reaction โ€“ and I certainly thought โ€˜How could you do this to me?โ€™ in the first couple of days after your death, I think after a while, we must remember your best, brightest parts.

Iโ€™m not saying I have it figured out. I donโ€™t know that I will ever fully understand your decision to end your life.

When I finally mustered up the courage to place my hand on your chest one last time, and I felt how cold you were, your soul evaporated, your eyes never to open again, I understood the finality of it. I understood that any idiot can create life โ€“ an episode of 16 and Pregnant will tell you that โ€“ but once given, it is a gift and a precious one at that.

I think the anger comes from not knowing we were on rations. It is fuelled by the guilt we all felt.

We should have hugged you more, spent time with you, memorised every part of you, told you we loved you โ€“ had just one more day with you โ€“ because deep down, we feel that if we did that, you wouldnโ€™t have killed yourself.

The point I am trying to make is that I get it. With suicide, what feels like a choice to other people was not a choice for you. Our love โ€“ and you had an ocean of people who felt that way about you โ€“ was not going to anchor you to this world when you felt there was no possibility, no hope.

As I write this, there are plenty of people who feel like that. Some of them will not make that terrible, final choice, and some of them will. And although I donโ€™t have the answers yet (maybe in another 30 days), I do know that we must talk about it.

We must make it easier for people to reach out when the blackness threatens to swallow them whole. We must give men the space, voice and understanding to be scared and vulnerable and not see it as weakness. We must say that mental health desperately needs funding, that it should be as top a priority as tackling obesity or cancer.

Iโ€™m not saying any of these things would have saved you. But I am saying that I refuse to remember you in anger and shame, when what we had was immense love.

If you want to help someone in need, reach out to them hug your treasure as you truly mean it. Let them vent give them space to breathe . Never say โ€œget over itโ€ Donโ€™t judge, donโ€™t be impatient.

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“Josh Groban – You Are Loved (Don’t Give Up)”~ BROKEN Soul ยฉ

Don’t Give up

Have you ever wondered why folk give up!

Watch the warning signs
Someone inside perhaps retreats within themselves
Silence is seen as escapism when in fact what happens inside a living being is our message from our gut really is the bodies way of reacting to lack of water, nourishment, surviving drought or famine inside all living matter fighting for survival. The role then is sent to the brainwaves simply GIVE UP.

WE ARE ALL FRAGILE
NO ONE IS INVINCIBLE ๐Ÿ™

Or maybe a sensitive Soul is mentally tired.

Mental illness has naught to do with giving up is a dangerous precursor to SUICIDE.

Animals, Humans, plants give up too. Why?

This Earth is Fragile we to are fragile

Every living being has this point called Fragility

We never know, what lays behind those eyes until the day we turn around to find another life LOST

Fragile– life is everyone’s responsibility.

Promises made at the moment, that are forfeited by the way perhaps unintended Promise’s never kept could destroy a life
Scared, disappointed, anger, loss of dignity, loss of trust, loss of love, all are a precursor to an already FRAGILE Soul.

Thought for the day
โ€œWhen you make a promise โ€” that is your wordโ€
You are only respected by your โ€œWordโ€of promise you have made.
Another Gentleman may say you are as good as your Word!

MMยฉยฎโ„ข

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Here at Dazzle the team intends to look at Broken Soul –
SUICIDE โ€” a subject we will all deal with around our lives with family, friends also with strangers who are FRAGILE.

EDITOR: DAZZLE
This Category Blogging is not Medical advice or makes any claims pertaining to information in this chapter of Dazzled.
You are invited to participate in this Category by sending your thoughts by email to the Central Office for consideration to publish here. Thank you and blessings ๐Ÿ•ฏ

Kindness is free sprinkle it all over every one you meet and smile just because you care ๐Ÿ’ฅ

You have to be so convinced that God is for you that you donโ€™t fall apart when life is against you. Donโ€™t get bitter when things donโ€™t work out. Donโ€™t live sour because something didnโ€™t happen on your timetable. Donโ€™t lose your passion because the contract didnโ€™t go through. Donโ€™t give up on your dreams because you had a setback. Know, deep down, itโ€™s a setup. Know that God has the final say. He didnโ€™t bring you this far to leave you, and Him being for you is more powerful than the world being against you! Share this with someone you love and be blessed!

Owen was thirteen years old when he took his own life earlier this month.ย ๐Ÿ˜“

This is Owen. Owen was thirteen years old when he took his own life earlier this month. Owen was bullied relentlessly and escaped in the only way he believed he could. Please, people, teach your children and their children to be kind. Help them learn how to draw that person standing apart into their circle and show them that they matter. That one small act of kindness might save a life.
I’m sharing this in the hope you do and together we make a difference
How about we post where it’s been shared.
Every one needs to talk about this and yes show children the consciences.
R.I.P sweet boy.
I donโ€™t know this boy but my heart breaks for his family. Itโ€™s not fair.

Judgement, Opinion of Humans is Sinful.

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What is “Sin” perhaps that word originated by man made religion. And you know that is fact.
Sin is used by man made religion to disguise ones guilt incurred by a lifetime of junk filled words. Sin is judgement of self and others. Sin is a cover up. Humans just need to be less judgemental. I have often wondered why folk use 3 words OPINION, SIN, JUDGMENT. Maybe some time on these words will be not heard. Wouldn’t that be a beautiful world.

Diary of a Mad Man! ๐Ÿ•ด

iscussing and considering this stuff can only do so much because the natural way of living is BEYOND ANALYSIS – it has to BE: i.e.: just naturally existent. It can’t be contrived, faked, attempted . . . it’s just got to be the truly natural “way of doing business.” It’s really communism, done without any unnatural-ness; human can not program it or “figure out” what to do to implement (it). IT CAN’T be implemented . . . only lived . . . only followed. IT IS INSTINCTS – which are intelligence . . . it is IMPULSE . . & in any moment that you’re analyzing it, it is totally beyond your ability to recognize or implement. That’s why mystical poetry or writing is, perhaps, the closest – thing to describing it: because it’s not really describing it; it’s trying to inspire your real intelligence to re-activate = surprising or shocking unnatural intelligence. Whew! No wonder the unnatural intelligence (UI) is just frustrated with what to do & THERE! it’s being called something that it doesn’t like to be called at all . . . it wants to be “the good guy” & it’s tried SO HARD, i.e.: the small s “self,” & [?] may then be (just) descriptions of natural / ? / intelligence, which includes OBJECTIVE AWARENESS (?) . .. so now another model emerges, another frustrating, producing model to continue processes of analysis, synthesis, judgment of an unnatural intelligence . . . UI, like AI, . . . the same, based on calculations, RI (real ? intelligence) is beyond calculation. Graceful, Natural – Doing the appropriate thing at the appropriate time – Can never be consistently accomplished without the appropriate means (??) [without an accepting perception, for WITH SUCH A PERCEPTION, everything is appropriate AND perfect, in a sense!!] AI can never be the way necessary (?), but is doomed to continue trying = insanity = believing appropriate things can be accomplished using inappropriate means. Unnatural – Awareness of self as a separate entity. (Children are not aware of this separateness . . . They must fall from grace, by exposure to the contagion of separate-ness.) Could the dinosaurs have gone extinct from becoming self-aware as a species? OK! Time to stop!! (Higher) EDUCATION : To Develop Unnatural Intelligence. TRAINING = To Develop Skills. The “bad” news – Things can NEVER get better than they are, so [stop] trying to make ’em better. The “good” news: You are always experiencing the best that can be provided! [read to S] One’s negative emotions ARE VALID BUT NOT NATURAL – perhaps, positive emotions are the same – valid, in that they are intuitive and . . .

Medical Disclaimer. Please use all information regarding “THE CONTENTED HEART,” a.k.a.: “Diary of a Madman,” anyway you wish! IF it is helpful to/for you, comforting or inspiring in anyway, THAT is our INTENTION. We are offering NO MEDICAL ADVICE, and we are NOT doctors, simply “fellow travelers,” also fragile humans, hoping for happiness for everyone, especially YOU! We make no representation and assume no responsibility for the accuracy of what is presented, although we feel we ARE our “brothers’ keepers,” we are all connected and the only sanity we perceive in life is to love and be loved. Shalom, Peace, Namaste & Love to Thee. ๐Ÿ™‚

MAD MAN’S DIARY”The Contented Heart!” p. 35 (with a little of p. 36 tossed in as an appetizer!)๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด

HIS PAGE, page 35, is A BLIP, returning for a moment to Bernadette’s** Article:

(Whether Jesus lived or not is another Question (&) Isn’t it irrelevant?*)

(35) Logos: Sole-y God . . . i.e.: un-manifest divinity Jesus: distinct, human person Christ: The eternal one-ness of God and MAN: God’s own human nature.

Bernadette believes Jesus WAS historical. I, me, don’t know & I don’t think I really care after (what I have been through) the last 3 -4 years. I would just LIKE to BELIEVE (that) my APPARENT existence has any value at all – I believe I would believe that IF I could, even apparently, be on some “PATH” from some state to the “Unitive” State to a no-self state. Sometimes, I imagine I am on a path; other times, the idea – the idea is TOTALLY (with a capital “T”) LUDICROUS – TOTALLY LUDICROUS.

* – Isn’t it as irrelevant as the question or koan: IS ALL THE STUFF OUT HERE REAL?

. . . (for those of you who would like to know the finish to what was left at the end of page 34, it goes like this, I think! . . . [MASS REVOLUTION (is) inevitable & (it will) NOT (be) ANY revolution based on (the) superficial; just get the wrong . . . {here it comes} folks out there & the right ones in & implement the right “policies” because an unnatural species HAS no idea what’s right or better (period).]

(Note: I really AM being facetious here, Dear Ones – there IS no hope for the betterment of human kind . . . that IS “THE period” . . . NO HOPE! This place, AND ALL CONDITIONAL REALMS – and there are no other types of apparently existent realms – are hopeless BECAUSE – conditionality, dual or whatever, can ONLY be designed to be conflicting, so the best you can hope for is: JUST TRYING TO DO THE BEST YOU CAN! and . . . THERE IS NO SUCH THING (as The Best You Can), since all you can do is what you can do, apparently! At this point, we hear Santa Claus in the background, with his traditional bowl of jelly belly laugh: “HO, HO, HO!” ๐Ÿ™‚ ) . . . but don’t give up HOPE! There is ALWAYS a kiss and a cuddle . . oo-oo–oo! <3

** – Bernadette Roberts, deceased Christian mystic and author.

Medical Disclaimer. Please use all information regarding “THE CONTENTED HEART,” a.k.a.: “Diary of a Madman,” anyway you wish! IF it is helpful to/for you, comforting or inspiring in anyway, THAT is our INTENTION. We are offering NO MEDICAL ADVICE, and we are NOT doctors, simply “fellow travelers,” also fragile humans, hoping for happiness for everyone, especially YOU! We make no representation and assume no responsibility for the accuracy of what is presented, although we feel we ARE our “brothers’ keepers,” we are all connected and the only sanity we perceive in life is to love and be loved. Shalom, Peace, Namaste & Love to Thee. ๐Ÿ™‚

Medical Disclaimer. Please use all information regarding “THE CONTENTED HEART,” a.k.a.: “Diary of a Madman,” anyway you wish! IF it is helpful to/for you, comforting or inspiring in anyway, THAT is our INTENTION. We are offering NO MEDICAL ADVICE, and we are NOT doctors, simply “fellow travelers,” also fragile humans, hoping for happiness for everyone, especially YOU! We make no representation and assume no responsibility for the accuracy of what is presented, although we feel we ARE our “brothers’ keepers,” we are all connected and the only sanity we perceive in life is to love and be loved. Shalom, Peace, Namaste & Love to Thee. ๐Ÿ™‚

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{I feel certain the review script is legible – What I have written [just commentary] goes like this}: page (33) Bernadette Roberts has a new book called “The Real Christ” She is only saying if you disagree with her definitions you shouldn’t read this book. Her books are all about the spiritual journey of transformation into Christ. [I agree] [are metaphors] the Incarnation . . . or (from me) just INCARNATION = God’s plan for all mankind. (that is, any incarnation or ALL Incarnation) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4oZZhpMXP4

Medical Disclaimer. Please use all information regarding “THE CONTENTED HEART,” a.k.a.: “Diary of a Madman,” anyway you wish! IF it is helpful to/for you, comforting or inspiring in anyway, THAT is our INTENTION. We are offering NO MEDICAL ADVICE, and we are NOT doctors, simply “fellow travelers,” also fragile humans, hoping for happiness for everyone, especially YOU! We make no representation and assume no responsibility for the accuracy of what is presented, although we feel we ARE our “brothers’ keepers,” we are all connected and the only sanity we perceive in life is to love and be loved. Shalom, Peace, Namaste & Love to Thee. ๐Ÿ™‚

Diary of a [Corporeal] Madman!” p. 32๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด๐Ÿ•ด

(32) I’m OK; You’re OK = I’m a Counselor; you’re a counselor (i.e.: I counsel you sometimes; you counsel me sometimes) . . . we all need a little counseling sometimes, DON’T YOU THINK? ((:) “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Heb. 11:1 “Everything & everything that is nothing, All, manifest & unmanifest is an imaginary point.” : J 3/18/2015 Dear “Concerned” (lol) Reader: IF you (are) around when it might be attempted, please don’t let my physical body be put, or kept, on artificial Life Support . . . Thanks, (signed) J Samuel Davis 3/18/2015 p.s.: Cremation is Much preferred too. IF, When you are finished with interacting with another, and they feel good, like when they say, “I feel good,” then , perhaps, it might mean that you have been a good counselor (It certainly will NOT mean that you have to feel good, but, hopefully, you MIGHT OR you could . . . feel good. When you write, & you think you’re writing, & if you share what you write & someone might say “Gosh, that sounds like poetry, may be it is . . . poetry . . . and maybe that writing is something that could be THE INTENT, The Presentation of Artistic Design i(n) What ARE Perceived to be Spiritual MODES. Autobiography of a Yogi: “The dual scales of Maya “balance every joy with a grief.” – – – Sri Yukteswar (Giri) to Mukunda: “IF ever you find me falling from a state of God Realization, please promise to put my head in your lap & help to bring me back to The Cosmic Beloved we both worship.” ๐Ÿ™‚

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Just a quick note for anyone reading this: PLEASE DO NOT be concerned how my physical body is disposed of at physical death. Although I certainly did in 2015, a little over 3 years ago, it DOES NOT MATTER TO ME ANY LONGER. No one knows how to dispose of physical bodies! EXCEPT – those that are SURE THEY DO! (L. O. L.) “What a physical body really is and what can or should be done with it is beyond anyone; as far as anyone can scientifically determine, the body is not even solid in some sense – it is just a perceptual construct, flowing, mutating, growing cells and releasing old cells to The Wind! And cells are certainly not the smallest particles! There always appears to be something smaller, making up even what we perceive to be the smallest, and so goes it – into eternity, The Infinite Smallness and Largeness – Quite beyond any mind’s ability to comprehend. The Mystery is Unfathomable . . . and Laughable!” The Mystic Poet. ๐Ÿ™‚

Medical Disclaimer. Please use all information regarding “THE CONTENTED HEART,” a.k.a.: “Diary of a Madman,” anyway you wish! IF it is helpful to/for you, comforting or inspiring in anyway, THAT is our INTENTION. We are offering NO MEDICAL ADVICE, and we are NOT doctors, simply “fellow travelers,” also fragile humans, hoping for happiness for everyone, especially YOU! We make no representation and assume no responsibility for the accuracy of what is presented, although we feel we ARE our “brothers’ keepers,” we are all connected and the only sanity we perceive in life is to love and be loved. Shalom, Peace, Namaste & Love to Thee. ๐Ÿ™‚

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The Contented Heart! page 31 – I am referencing a Catholic Mystic named Bernadette Roberts; she passed away last year, in her mid-80s. I had the opportunity to attend a seminar weekend with her years ago, and she was very nice! ๐Ÿ™‚ – She wrote several books, which I would not recommend to most people, except YOU! ๐Ÿ™‚ What I remember about her was: (1) she was thin and small; (2) she smoked like “a stack;” (3) she liked to drink and serve tea; and (4) she was just . . . well, you know, wonderful!The Contented Heart! page 31 – I am referencing a Catholic Mystic named Bernadette Roberts; she passed away last year, in her mid-80s. I had the opportunity to attend a seminar weekend with her years ago, and she was very nice! ๐Ÿ™‚ – She wrote several books, which I would not recommend to most people, except YOU! ๐Ÿ™‚ What I remember about her was: (1) she was thin and small; (2) she smoked like “a stack;” (3) she liked to drink and serve tea; and (4) she was just . . . well, you know, wonderful!(31) In Bernadette’s WARNING (I think her last book had a warning at the beginning that you should, at least, be tolerant of what she was offering!): She says (that) Recognizing the person of Christ is an important step in one’s spiritual journey. [She is ONLY saying, (I think) IF you disagree with her definitions, you shouldn’t read the book.] Yogananda (a pretty famous Hindu guru, who came to The West and started a group called Self-Realization Fellowship in California) studied Jesus Christ’s life with his guru. “The historical Christ clues us into the oneness of form & formless.” Is The Primary Absolute: God as ALL? Virgin Birth: Brahmin birthing Brahmin. (The) act of a meal is [my definition]: Brahmin Serving Brahmin to Brahmin – It’s just ALL About Brahmin . . . It’s just ALL About love. The “Unitive” State: A life in union with God. 1st book: “The PATH to NO-Self . . . so, there is a process. Is it your belief you are involved in a process from The Unitive State to No-Self? From self (small “s”) to me to ego to personas to the witness, to (?) to Alan Watt’s description (of a human being being a) Quaking Mess (or Mass) (!) to the intermediator, to Speaker A, Speaker B, conscious self, unconscious self, to me, myself & I. I am, seemingly, fragmented beyond beyond (belief?) = spiritual schizophrenia, intellectual or conscious schizophrenia – Ahem! I AM A MESS, I am a mess. Why ? are you a mess? I don’t know . . . . (possible answer:) for love of You. ๐Ÿ™‚ – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKuFyHwG188&list=RDeKuFyHwG188&start_radio=1

Medical Disclaimer. Please use all information regarding “THE CONTENTED HEART,” a.k.a.: “Diary of a Madman,” anyway you wish! IF it is helpful to/for you, comforting or inspiring in anyway, THAT is our INTENTION. We are offering NO MEDICAL ADVICE, and we are NOT doctors, simply “fellow travelers,” also fragile humans, hoping for happiness for everyone, especially YOU! We make no representation and assume no responsibility for the accuracy of what is presented, although we feel we ARE our “brothers’ keepers,” we are all connected and the only sanity we perceive in life is to love and be loved. Shalom, Peace, Namaste & Love to Thee. ๐Ÿ™‚