“we are not going that way”
I saw this on Facebook and really felt the need to share it.
I have NEVER seen a more perfect poem, written in the saddest way.
“I destroy homes, tear families… apart – take your children, and that’s just the start.
I’m more costly than diamonds, more costly than gold – the sorrow I bring is a sight to behold.
And if you need me, remember I’m easily found.
I live all around you, in schools and in town.
I live with the rich, I live with the poor, I live down the street, and maybe next door.
My power is awesome – try me you’ll see.
But if you do, you may never break free.
Just try me once and I might let you go, but try me twice, and I’ll own your soul.
When I possess you, you’ll steal and you’ll lie.
You’ll do what you have too just to get high.
The crimes you’ll commit, for my narcotic charms, will be worth the pleasure you’ll feel in your arms.
You’ll lie to your mother; you’ll steal from your dad.
When you see their tears, you should feel sad.
But you’ll forget your morals and how you were raised.
I’ll be your conscience, I’ll teach you my ways.
I take kids from parents, and parents from kids, I turn people from God, and separate from friends.
I’ll take everything from you, your looks and your pride, I’ll be with you always, right by your side.
You’ll give up everything – your family, your home, your friends, your money, then you’ll be alone.
I’ll take and I’ll take, till you have nothing more to give.
When I’m finished with you you’ll be lucky to live.
If you try me be warned this is no game.
If given the chance, I’ll drive you insane.
I’ll ravish your body, I’ll control your mind.
I’ll own you completely; your soul will be mine.
The nightmares I’ll give you while lying in bed.
The voices you’ll hear from inside your head.
The sweats, the shakes, the visions you’ll see.
I want you to know, these are all gifts from me.
But then it’s too late, and you’ll know in your heart, that you are mine, and we shall not part.
You’ll regret that you tried me, they always do.
But you came to me, not I to you.
You knew this would happen.
Many times you were told, but you challenged my power, and chose to be bold.
You could have said no, and just walked away.
If you could live that day over, now what would you say?
I’ll be your master; you will be my slave.
I’ll even go with you, when you go to your grave.
Now that you have met me, what will you do?
Will you try me or not?
It’s all up to you.
I can bring you more misery than words can tell.
Come take my hand, let me lead you to hell.”
Police charge man with 54 counts of domestic violence and sexual assault
Have you ever been approached by a homosexual? How did you respond to it?
Yes, I have.
When I was about 19 I decided to hitchhike to Georgia from Tennessee. I was having a hard time getting a ride I guess because I was a guy. Anyway I finally got me a ride somewhere in Tennessee. The guy I got ride from was a truck driver. I was totally oblivious to homosexuals, I was scared of them because all I ever heard was stories. I have never even seen one before this incident. Anyway, I remember it clears as day. We were driving down the road, and he said he was hungry and needed some protein. I said pull over and get something to eat I wouldn’t mind but that is not what he meant. He told me that he needed to give me oral sex, so he could stay awake. That scared the heck out of me and I told him to pull over and let me out. I guess he must have thought I was gonna go to the police because he started begging and pleading that I let him carry me to Atlanta, and he would not say or do anything out of the way. Well, I agreed because I had a long way to go, and he kept his word. What really blew my mind was that he was a truck driver. I always thought that truck drivers were tough.
When Jane was 15 she was repeatedly sexually assaulted by her math teacher Nicolaas Bester, now he is playing the victim and she can’t speak in her own defence #LetHerSpeak
Former private school teacher and convicted sex offender Bester, who groomed, molested and repeatedly sexually assaulted his student, has arrogantly claimed he is the real victim.
In 2011, Nicolaas Ockert Bester, was sentenced to two years and four months in jail for maintaining a sexual relationship with his 15-year-old maths student at Hobart’s prestigious St Michael’s Collegiate.
**Maintaining a sexual relationship, interesting terminology, isn’t it…. on this page, that is called rape… children cannot give consent, therefore no consent=rape.
In 2015, after being released from prison, Bester, the then 58-year-old, reoffended by making child exploitation material for which he was sentenced to an additional four months in jail. That same year, he wrote comments on social media about his “sexual relationship” with the teenage student, describing it as “awesome” and “enviable” — for another four months in jail.
But despite all this, Bester has arrogantly claimed he is the real victim, and the worst part is he is getting support. Sex therapist Bettina Arndt interviewed him for her website and let him prattle on about how hard done by he is ! She even asked him what HE had been through! She literally gave HIM, a convicted child sex offender, a voice and in the introduction to the video referred to Bester as a “so called child abuser” THERE’S NOTHING “SO CALLED” ABOUT IT BETTINA, HE WAS TRIED AND CONVICTED…. HE IS A CHILD SEX OFFENDER, DEFINITELY A CHILD ABUSER… END OF STORY !
If his social media commentary and Bettina Arndt excusing his behaviour wasn’t bad enough, Jane Doe (in case you haven’t guessed, that isn’t her real name) isn’t even allowed to speak up and defend herself !
Because of an antiquated and outdated Tasmanian law that prevents survivors of sexual assault from being named, she cannot tell her story in any way, shape or form. He, her abuser… can, but she can’t, this is just incredibly wrong !
The outdated law which only exists in Tasmania and the Northern Territory won’t allow sexual assault survivors to be identified under their real name, even with their full consent….. you heard that correctly, even if they are now adults and wish to speak out… they cannot!
Who is really being protected by this law? Certainly not survivors who wish to tell their story.
Bester groomed Jane Doe, he was her teacher, 40+ years older than her, in a position where he held all of the power. She was a vulnerable teenage girl, troubled and suffering from anorexia.
He took advantage of her mentally, physically, emotionally and in a situation where he held all the power, he now claims he is the real victim.
Until now, Bester has been able to speak, knowing “Jane Doe” has no power or legal right to defend herself.
In Tasmania, Section 194K of the Evidence Act means that the identity of a sexual assault survivor can never be revealed, even with the sexual assault survivor’s full cooperation and consent. It’s a cruel and barbaric law that effectively silences courageous survivors and protects their perpetrators.
Bester sexually abused “Jane Doe” at school, in his office, in a hotel room and even in a church and now after being convicted and serving prison time, he is telling a very different version of the “truth” and thanks to people like Bettina Arndt, giving his ridiculous version creedence, where he is infact the victim, he is being heard. Last night 60 minutes aired this story and even when reporter Allison Langdon, confronted the now 65-year-old Bester, the first time he’s ever been challenged on his version of events, he made no apologies for his behaviour.
“The truth of it is, you isolated and groomed a vulnerable young girl,” Langdon said as she confronted him outside a hardware store in Tasmania.
“No. Nothing of the kind,” he adamantly responded.
“You locked her in a closet.”
“Nothing of the kind,” he repeated
“.. and forced her to undress,” Langdon interrupted
When Langdon said: “All you’ve done is portray yourself as the victim. What about the real victim, Nicholas? Any thoughts to her?”
Bester hit back saying, “There’s that word again, victim. We’ll see who’s the victim.”
You see… Bester is the perfect example of a child abuser, he is arrogant, a narcissist concerned only with HIS wants, HIS feelings, how things affects HIM. He is the victim here, he lost his job, his family, his life, he went to prison…of course the fact that he is to blame for those things happening to him is something he will never accept. He truly believes he is the victim and that is why we at FACAA say they can never be rehabilitated… because the fact is they see themselves as the victim, they truly believe the world has done them wrong by arresting them and calling them a child abuser. If you refuse to admit your crime how can you ever be rehabilitated especially when you are deluded enough to believe that sexually abusing, raping a child 40+ years younger than you, when you hold all the power, is the childs fault. Unbelievable!
To say they are rehabilitated or that they are the victim is simply an outright lie. Yet still here we are, with the only real victim in this story still having no voice, she cannot speak out without risking imprisonment, yet Bester can go and be interviewed by those who excuse and explain away his paedophillic ways, and he can cry foul of the whole world, claim it was he who was hard done by, there is no justice !
We have to commend 60 minutes for their work in this story, as well as Camilla Cleese, Alyssa Milano and Tara Moss for championing “Jane Doe’s” cause and to End Rape On Campus for starting the Hashtag #LetHerSpeak to raise awareness for changing the outdated and antiquated law in Tasmania and the Northern Territory.
To “Jane Doe” we say please never stop fighting and know all 117 thousand of the FACAA stand right behind you. You deserve to be able to defend yourself and to speak out about what was done to you… no one should be able to take your voice. Our voices are the best defence we, as survivors, have against predators.
Together, we will be heard
To Nicolaas Bester we say SHUT THE HELL UP ! YOU HAVE DONE ENOUGH DAMAGE. Bester you ARE a child abuser and you are NOT the victim and Bettina why on earth would you give a CONVICTED child abuser a voice? How do you sleep at night, both of you ?
If you would like to see this antiquated law changed, please sign and share the petition below and #LetHerSpeak-
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Cornelus Bezuidenhout molested a 6 year old girl then told the court “she knew exactly what she was doing and wanted it” He will be deported after serving just 7 months !
This absolutely vile pervert tried to blame his 6 year old victim for him molesting her !
HE IS 75 YEARS OLD !
Once again a child abuser proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that they cannot be rehabilitated because they simply do not acknowledge that they have done anything wrong !
A pervert who sexually assaulted a kindergarten student claimed she ‘knew exactly what she was doing’ and ‘wanted it’. Cornelus Bezuidenhout, 75, who claimed to be a ‘good Christian’, made the vile comments to police last January after the girl pleaded with her parents to keep him away.
That’s not very Christian of you Cornelus, not only did you molest one of god’s chosen (the children) and forever traumatize the little innocent angel, but then instead of owning your mistake and asking forgiveness you tried to pass the buck to the 6 YEAR OLD GIRL !
I doubt very highly that Jesus would be behind you on this one !
The South African national – a father of five – who now lives in Melbourne, had been looking after the girl after befriending the parents of his niece’s friend. He had repeatedly molested the child after collecting her from kindergarten, taking her on trips to the park and playing dolls in a bedroom. On one occasion he touched the little girl while he shared a meal with her parents.
The brazen sex offender was caught after his terrified victim pleaded with her parents not to let him come around to their house. ‘He’s not as nice as he seems,’ she warned, telling her shocked parents Bezuidenhout had ‘touched her private parts’.
What an incredibly brave and articulate child, showing courage and wisdom beyond her years.
The child was forced to recount her ordeal to the court just days before Christmas last year, telling a judge her abuser had hurt her. The devout Baptist pleaded guilty to two charges of sexually assaulting a child aged under 16. He had initially denied abusing the girl, telling his wife of 26 years that nothing was wrong.
He continued his outrageous behaviour when questioned by police, telling them the little girl was trouble.
Bezuidenhout blamed his victim for her abuse, telling detectives ‘it was no accident’. ‘It was purely for her, as she wanted it,’ he said. ‘It was a game … she knew exactly what she was doing.’
So firstly A 6 YEAR OLD IS A YOUNG INNOCENT CHILD, SHE WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOU TO SEXUALLY MOLEST HER….AND EVEN IF YOU SOMEHOW MISCONSTRUED WHAT SHE SAID AND YOU THOUGHT SHE WAS ASKING TO BE MOLESTED, … YOU ARE AN ADULT… YOU SAY NO, FOR GOODNESS SAKE ! and secondly CHILD MOLESTATION IS NOT A GAME….. YOU ABHORRENT FREAK !
Bezuidenhout said he abused the girl only to ‘please her’ and that he was a ‘good Christian’ who had been unable to maintain an erection for the past five years. What does that have to do with anything ? You don’t need an erection to be a child sex offender.
He actually had the gall to tell the police-
‘This little girl should know boundaries because she’ll get herself into trouble,’
Umm no Cornelus, it is YOU who should know boundaries and it is YOU who has gotten himself in trouble…. but it is nothing you don’t deserve !
He went on to muse that it was ‘unbelievable a five-year old seduces a 75-year old man’.
County Court of Victoria Judge Gabriele Cannon agreed. ‘The punishment must be just,’ she said.
Judge Cannon condemned Bezuidenhout for his ‘gross breach of trust’ and labelled his comments to police as ‘repugnant’.
‘You knew what you did was wrong … you blame the six-year old victim,’ she said. She sentenced the civil engineer to 22 months in jail, with a non-parole period of 10 months. With time served, Bezuidenhout will likely be deported back to South Africa in a little under seven months.
So Judge Cannon says “the punishment must be just” and then gives him what equates to 7 more months in prison ? Somehow that doesn’t sound very just to me.
Our judges comments suggest that they get the impact that child abuse has on our children, but then their actions speak much louder… when they hand them pathetically lenient sentences which equate to nothing more than a slap on the wrist. This gives the opposite message that our children’s lives are not valued by our society.
We simply must start punishing these vile creatures with much harsher sentences to send a loud and clear message that our children are valued by us and that if you hurt them, you are going to prison for a VERY long time !
One good piece of news is that He will return to South Africa alone after his wife filed for divorce. I guess he’ll blame the little girl for that too.
Cornelus Bezuidenhout you make me physically sick ! You should do everyone a favour when you get back to South Africa and go play with a Hippo ! How dare you try to blame an innocent little child for your sick perversions!
It never ceases to amaze me how arrogant and deluded these disgusting perverts are, blaming an innocent 6 year old for his heinous actions. Unbelievable!
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Question by Reader
Mim Cerviney Marshall I know just shocking that children are doing this even thinking this way. Something terrible wrong with our younger generations 🤗
Pam Morrow I can’t fathom events that will lead these horrifying thoughts. Is it drug related? PROBABLY, is it the way these kids were educated? Look at the past. History shows maybe that families internally become dysfunctional. Divorce rate is out of control, families break down. Children are hurt beyound endurance of family upheaval. Extended families work for the best interest of the child. The blame rests with us. Child born to you and me is our responsibility until the day we die. Children are not disposable toys. They grow to have children of their own. Still you the Grandma who gave birth to this lineage is our responsibility. That’s life folk. If you don’t understand what giving birth will do to your life, keep you legs together lol. 😁