Categories
Ace Daily News

Here are today’s posts: 

Advertisements




Here are today’s posts: 


Ace Daily News With Kindness & Wisdom

19/01/2021

This is our daily list of posts on @acenewsservices that are shared across Twitter, Facebook & Tumblr and Shared here on mydaz.blog/ 


Post today 20/01/2021

(BIRMINGHAM, U.K.) JUST IN: WM Police Report: Officers have an arrested a 17yr-old-teen during an investigation into ‘ knifepoint robberies ‘ confirming that a fake Facebook account was used to establish contact with the targets who were asked to meet in Wolverhampton #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: Officers have arrested a teenager after people were lured by an offer to trade mobile phones but were instead robbed of their cars at knifepoint: A fake Facebook account was used to establish contact with the targets who were asked to meet in Wolverhampton: WM Police Officers have arrested a 17yr-old-teen during […]

(LONDON) JUST IN: MET REPORT: Detectives launch a murder investigation following the fatal stabbing of a teenage boy in Haringey on Tuesday around 21:00hrs is far no arrests have been made #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: Police were called at 21:10hrs on Tuesday, 19 January to West Green Road, junction with Willow Walk, N15, following reports of a stabbing: Officers attended with London Ambulance Service and found a male, aged 17, suffering from a stab injury: CPR was administered at the scene before the victim was taken to […]

‘ Ace News Room Daily Page News ‘20/01/2021
Dear Friends, Followers & Readers this is our daily news bulletins that have now become a regular feature link below of the page … ‘Today’s selection of posts from across our publishing panel, Twitter & Telegram ‘ January 20, 2021, This just in from the cutting room floor … LA Native Amanda Gorman Delivers […]

(WASHINGTON, D.C.) Presidential Inauguration Report: Joe Biden has been sworn in as the 46th US president, ending one of the most dramatic political transitions in American history saying Democracy has prevailed #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: “Democracy has prevailed,” he said after taking the oath of office from Chief Justice John Roberts: Donald Trump – who has not formally conceded the presidency to Mr Biden – snubbed the inauguration ceremony, in a departure from longstanding precedent: The new president has announced a raft of measures reversing Trump policies: […]

(ST THOMAS, U.S. Virgin Islands.) The Coast Guard terminated an illegal charter for the 29-foot small passenger vessel Alternate Attitude Sunday just outside of Cruz Bay with 10-passengers onboard #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: During law enforcement patrol in the area, a Coast Guard Boat Forces Detachment 33-foot Special Purpose Craft-Law Enforcement team conducted a boarding of the Alternate Attitude and found the vessel was carrying 11 people on board, including the vessel operator and 10 passengers for hire: The Alternate Attitude, reportedly operating as a charter […]

(WASHINGTON) DOJ/EPA Report: Dow Chemical Company and Two Subsidiaries will Reduce Harmful Air Pollution at Four U.S. Chemical Plants that will eliminate thousands of tons of air pollution from four petrochemical manufacturing facilities in Texas and Louisiana #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: The settlement resolves allegations that Dow and its subsidiaries violated the Clean Air Act by failing to properly operate and monitor industrial flares at their petrochemical facilities, which resulted in excess emissions of harmful air pollution: Dow Chemical Company and Two Subsidiaries will Reduce Harmful Air Pollution at Four U.S. Chemical Plants […]

(MADRID, Spain.) JUST IN: An explosion was reported in central Madrid on Wednesday, with dramatic images from the scene showing a building ripped apart and debris covering the street below: The cause of the explosion is not yet clear still developing story …….#AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: Editor says here’s what we know so …..Photos and videos filmed by shocked onlookers show cars destroyed by the blast and smoke billowing from the upper floor of a building.@laSextaTV @antena3com @telemadrid pic.twitter.com/4Dl8d90RAP— césarr,❃ (@valleejooo_) January 20, 2021Acaba de Haber una explosión terrible en la Calle Toledo. pic.twitter.com/CggzntAmtQ— Leire Ariz Sarasketa (@leireariz) […]

(WASHINGTON) DOJ Report: Jeffrey Lowe and Tiger King LLC Ordered to Relinquish Big Cat Cubs to the United States for Placement in Suitable Facilities after Claims of Violation of the Endangered Species Act #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: On Jan. 15, 2021, a federal court issued a preliminary injunction in favour of the United States and against Jeffrey and Lauren Lowe, Greater Wynnewood Exotic Animal Park LLC, and Tiger King LLC based on claimed violations of the Endangered Species Act and the Animal Welfare Act: U.S. District Court Judge John […]

(BROOKLYN) DOJ Court Report: Political Scientist Author Charged With Acting As An Unregistered Agent Of The Iranian Government Defendant Lobbied U.S. Officials, Published Books and Articles Advancing Iranian Viewpoints While Secretly Employed by the Iranian Mission to the United Nations #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: A criminal complaint was unsealed today in federal court in Brooklyn charging Kaveh Lotfolah Afrasiabi, also known as Lotfolah Kaveh Afrasiabi, with acting and conspiring to act as an unregistered agent of the Government of the Islamic Republic of Iran, in violation of the Foreign Agents Registration Act (FARA). Afrasiabi was arrested […]

(CALIFORNIA) JUST IN: #CalFire Issues ‘ Red Flag Warning ‘ in parts of the state on Monday but with ferocious winds on Tuesday having reignited wildfires firefighters responded to at least a dozen vegetation fires in San Mateo and Santa Cruz counties in 12 hours #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Ferocious winds in California on Tuesday have reignited wildfires in what is typically the state’s rainy season: Evacuations were ordered in Santa Cruz County, south of San Francisco, where winds sparked new fires in an area where a summer blaze torched 1,500 buildings. 2020 was a catastrophic and unprecedented wildfire season in California, […]

(WASHINGTON, D.C.) USCG Presidential Inauguration Day Report: Coast Guard, partner agency units conduct security operation patrols in waterways protecting the event with incident management and counterterrorism capabilities of the Federal Government #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: Footage of Coast Guard and partner agency units on a security patrol in the waters around Washington, including footage of patrol vessels in front of national monuments, Jan. 19, 2021. On Sept. 24, 2018, the Department of Homeland Security designated the Presidential Inauguration as a recurring National Special Security Event: Events may be […]

(WASHINGTON) Justice Dept & NYPD Report: Working with U.S Army Counterintelligence have announced today the arrest of a private first class in the U.S. Army, on federal terrorism charges based on Bridges’ alleged efforts to assist ISIS to attack and kill U.S. soldiers in the Middle East #AceNewsDesk report20/01/2021
#AceNewsReport – Jan.20: Cole James Bridges, aka Cole Gonzales, 20, of Stowe, Ohio, was charged by complaint with attempting to provide material support to a designated foreign terrorist organization and attempting to murder U.S. military service members: The FBI and U.S. Army Counterintelligence arrested Bridges today, and he will be presented later today in the […]

#AceNewsDesk report …………..Published: Jan.20: 2021:

Editor says #AceNewsDesk reports by https://t.me/acenewsdaily and all our posts, also links can be found at here for Twitter and Live Feeds https://acenewsroom.wordpress.com/ and thanks for following as always appreciate every like, reblog or retweet and free help and guidance tips on your PC software or need help & guidance from our experts AcePCHelp.WordPress.Com




Ihttps://youtu.be/HezPdHTwdGA

@bestofnatureblog
Categories
WISDOM

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

Advertisements
Categories
Abuse

For advice and survivors of Narcissists

Advertisements


Why do narcissists withhold affection?





A narcissist withholds affection (or sex) for a number of reasons

Please be aware that every narcissist or pwNPD is a bit different, but in my own experience and those of people close to me who were in relationships with narcissists or pwNPD, they withhold affection for the following reasons:


They feel or perceived that you did something wrong to offend them, accuse them, criticize them, blame them, question them, or anything that made them uncomfortable or put on the spot.


They are feeling bored and need to amp up the drama in the house so they withhold to make you freak out wondering what you did wrong, why they’re mad at you, why aren’t they attracted to you, are they losing interest in you, what can you do to win back their affection and make them want you and “desire” you and touch you again.

This plays right into their hands and makes them feel god-like as you bend over backwards to appease them, cater to them, stroke their feathers and “ooh” and “ahhh” over them.


They are talking to other women/men and getting attention and adoration outside of the relationship, so they are not as into you as they would be if you were currently their only option.


They haven’t withheld affection in a while and they notice you getting extra relaxed, content, happy, and almost giddy with your peppy positivity that is “you” but that they have worked so hard to snuff out.

This can’t happen so they need to remind you of your place and put you back there, which is walking on eggshells and not knowing where you stand with them at any given moment.


They are feeling down on themselves, in a particularly low mood and envious of the news of a friend or neighbor who got a new Tesla, bought a new boat or has been looking ripped from regularly working out, so they must make you feel like crap so they can feel better than someone.

They also haven’t liked how sexy you have been looking since you started running and toning up your tanned legs so they have to destroy that confidence you’re gaining by taking affection and sex away and acting like you are nothing.

Making you feel like they are repulsed by the thought of even sitting close to you to watch a movie.


Regardless of why the narcissist withholds affection, their goal in doing so is to cause a negative reaction in you, or to cause you to feel negatively about yourself.

It is to make you doubt your place in their life, doubt your value and doubt their devotion to you.

This in turn causes you to constantly try to get back to the place of idealization and where they looked at you like you had dropped straight from heaven just for them.

Withholding affection and sex is emotional abuse and pure manipulation.

It is evil, sick, calculated, and malicious.

It has NO PLACE in a healthy relationship and at the first hint of it, a person should address it so that it never happens again, or they should abandon ship and leave the relationship.

THIS IS DEATH TO ANY FEELINGS OF TRUST, INTIMACY, SAFETY or SECURITY.

You deserve better, and we all deserve better.


To sum it up, if you are in a relationship with a narcissist who is withholding affection or sex from you and they have a history of doing so, just remember that while they are neglecting you in that way, there are a million men(or women) out there who would give their left arm for a chance to be with you.

Someone who uses withholding as a form of communicating their anger, disappointment, pain, does not love you and is not on your team.

They are working against you and any chance at success and happiness in the relationship.

I hope this helps you in some way if you are going through this now.

It is never going to improve and will always end the same for you

Disappointment and unhappiness.

Categories
WISDOM

Be blessed

Advertisements

Nobody’s going to do your life for you.

You have to do it yourself, whether you’re rich or poor, out of money or raking it in, the beneficiary of ridiculous fortune or terrible injustice.

And you have to do it no matter what is true.

No matter what is hard.

No matter what unjust, sad, sucky things befall you.

Self-pity is a dead-end road.

You choose to drive down it.

It’s up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out!

I’m on your side

I will lay me down

I will comfort you

I will lay me down

Like a bridge over troubled waters

All your dreams are on there way

Shalom

Our gift to you fifty music videos

Categories
KINDNESS

Australia First Nations People

Advertisements
Categories
ABOUT

NOMINATION

Advertisements

WOOHOO! NOMINATED FOR LIEBSTER AWARD Posted on September 16, 2019 by  Hi folks, I was nominated byTraveller with purpose for the Liebster Award. I am very thankful to him for nominating me for this award, thank you for following my blog and reading my post. Rules for the award Nominated blogger has to convey thanks to the person who […]

NOMINATION
Categories
WISDOM

Practice Unselfish Thinking

Advertisements

Practice Unselfish Thinking


“We cannot hold a torch to light another’s path without brightening our own.” —BEN SWEETLAND 

So far in this book, we’ve discussed many kinds of thinking that can help you to achieve more. Each of them has the potential to make you more successful. Now I want to acquaint you with a kind of thinking with the potential to change your life in another way. It might even redefine how you view success. Unselfish thinking can often deliver a return greater than any other kind of thinking. Take a look at some of its benefits: 

1. Unselfish Thinking Brings Personal Fulfillment 

Few things in life bring greater personal rewards than helping others. Charles H. Burr believed, “Getters generally don’t get happiness; givers get it.” Helping people brings great satisfaction. When you spend your day unselfishly serving others, at night you can lay down your head with no regrets and sleep soundly. In Bringing Out the Best in People, Alan Loy McGinnis remarked, 

“There is no more noble occupation in the world than to assist another human being—to help someone succeed.” Even if you have spent much of your life pursuing selfish gain, it’s never too late to have a change of heart. Even the most miserable person, like Charles Dickens’s Scrooge, can turn his life around and make a difference for others. That’s what Alfred Nobel did. When he saw his own obituary in the newspaper (his brother had died and the editor had written about the wrong Nobel, saying that the explosives his company produced had killed many people), Nobel vowed to promote peace and acknowledge contributions to humanity. That is how the Nobel Prizes came into being. 

2. Unselfish Thinking Adds Value to Others 

In 1904, Bessie Anderson Stanley wrote the following definition of success in Brown Book magazine: He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children, who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of earth’s beauty or failed to express it, who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had, whose life was an inspiration, whose memory a benediction. When you get outside of yourself and make a contribution to others, you really begin to live. 

3. Unselfish Thinking Encourages Other Virtues 

When you see a four-year-old, you expect to observe selfishness. But when you see it in a forty-year-old, it’s not very attractive, is it? Of all the qualities a person can pursue, unselfish thinking seems to make the biggest difference toward cultivating other virtues. I think that’s because the ability to give unselfishly is so difficult. It goes against the grain of human nature. But if you can learn to think unselfishly and become a giver, then it becomes easier to develop many other virtues: gratitude, love, respect, patience, discipline, etc.

4. Unselfish Thinking Increases Quality of Life 

The spirit of generosity created by unselfish thinking gives people an appreciation for life and an understanding of its higher values. Seeing those in need and giving to meet that need puts a lot of things into perspective. It increases the quality of life of the giver and the receiver. That’s why I believe that 

There is no life as empty as the self-centered life. 

There is no life as centered as the self-empty life. 

If you want to improve your world, then focus your attention on helping others.

5.Yourself Merck and Company

the global pharmaceutical corporation, has always seen itself as doing more than just producing products and making a profit. It desires to serve humanity. In the mid-1980s, the company developed a drug to cure river blindness, a disease that infects and causes blindness in millions of people, particularly in developing countries. While it was a good product, potential customers couldn’t afford to buy it. So what did Merck do? It developed the drug anyway, and in 1987 announced that it would give the medicine free to anyone who needed it. As of 1998, the company had given more than 250 million tablets away. 19 George W. Merck says, “We try never to forget that medicine is for the people. It is not for the profits. The profits follow, and if we have remembered that, they have never failed to appear.” The lesson to be learned? Simple. Instead of trying to be great, be part of something greater than yourself. 

6. Unselfish Thinking Creates a Legacy 

Jack Balousek, president and chief operating officer of True North Communications, says, “Learn, earn, return—these are the three phases of life. The first third should be devoted to education, the second third to building a career and making a living, and the last third to giving back to others—returning something in gratitude. Each state seems to be a preparation for the next one.” If you are successful, it becomes possible for you to leave an inheritance for others. But if you desire to do more, to create a legacy, then you need to leave that in others. When you think unselfishly and invest in others, you gain the opportunity to create a legacy that will outlive you. 

HOW TO EXPERIENCE THE SATISFACTION OF UNSELFISH THINKING


I think most people recognize the value of unselfish thinking, and most would even agree that it’s an ability they would like to develop. Many people, however, are at a loss concerning how to change their thinking. To begin cultivating the ability to think unselfishly, I recommend that you do the following: 

1. Put Others First 

The process begins with realizing that everything is not about you! That requires humility and a shift in focus. In The Power of Ethical Management , Ken Blanchard and Norman Vincent Peale wrote, “People with humility don’t think less of themselves; they just think of themselves less.” If you want to become less selfish in your thinking, then you need to stop thinking about your wants and begin focusing on others’ needs. Paul the Apostle exhorted, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”  Make a mental and emotional commitment to look out for the interests of others. 

2. Expose Yourself to Situations Where People Have Needs 

It’s one thing to believe you are willing to give unselfishly. It’s another to actually do it. To make the transition, you need to put yourself in a position where you can see people’s needs and do something about it. The kind of giving you do isn’t important at first. You can serve at your church, make donations to a food bank, volunteer professional services, or give to a charitable organization. The point is to learn how to give and to cultivate the habit of thinking like a giver. 

3. Give Quietly or Anonymously 

Once you have learned to give of yourself, then the next step is to learn to give when you cannot receive anything in return. It’s almost always easier to give when you receive recognition for it than it is when no one is likely to know about it. The people who give in order to receive a lot of fanfare, however, have already received any reward they will get. There are spiritual, mental, and emotional benefits that come only to those who give anonymously. If you’ve never done it before, try it.

4. Invest in People Intentionally 

The highest level of unselfish thinking comes when you give of yourself to another person for that person’s personal development or well-being. If you’re married or a parent, you know this from personal experience. What does your spouse value most highly: money in the bank or your time freely given? What would small children really rather have from you: a toy or your undivided attention? The people who love you would rather have you than what you can give them. If you want to become the kind of person who invests in people, then consider others and their journey so that you can collaborate with them. Each relationship is like a partnership created for mutual benefit. As you go into any relationship, think about how you can invest in the other person so that it becomes a win-win situation. Here is how relationships most often play out: 

I win, you lose—I win only once. 

You win, I lose—You win only once. 

We both win—We win many times. 

We both lose—Good-bye, partnership! 

The best relationships are win-win. Why don’t more people go into relationships with that attitude? I’ll tell you why: most people want to make sure that they win first. Unselfish thinkers, on the other hand, go into a relationship and make sure that the other person wins first. And that makes all the difference. 

5. Continually Check Your Motives 

François de la Rochefoucauld said, “What seems to be generosity is often no more than disguised ambition, which overlooks a small interest in order to secure a great one.” The hardest thing for most people is fighting their natural tendency to put themselves first. That’s why it’s important to continually examine your motives to make sure you’re not sliding backward into selfishness. Do you want to check your motives? Then follow the modeling of Benjamin Franklin. Every day, he asked himself two questions. When he got up in the morning, he would ask, “What good am I going to do today?” And before he went to bed, he would ask, “What good have I done today?” If you can answer those questions with selflessness and integrity, you can keep yourself on track. 

GIVE WHILE YOU LIVE


In the fall of 2001, we all witnessed a demonstration of unselfish thinking unlike anything we had seen in the United States for many years. Who can forget the events of September 11, 2001? I had just finished teaching a leadership lesson when my assistant, Linda Eggers, came into the studio to announce the tragic news. Like most Americans, I remained riveted to the television all day and heard the reports of the firefighters and police officers who raced into the World Trade Center towers to help others, never worrying about their own safety. In the days following the tragedy, millions of Americans expressed a great desire to do something that would help the situation. I had the same desire. My company was scheduled to do a training via simulcast on September 15, the Saturday following the tragedy. Our leadership team decided to add a one-and-a-half-hour program titled 

“America Prays” to the end of the simulcast. In it, my friend Max Lucado wrote and read a prayer, expressing the heart’s cry of millions. Franklin Graham prayed for our national leaders. Jim and Shirley Dobson gave advice to parents on how to help their children deal with the event. And Bruce Wilkinson and I asked the simulcast viewers to give financially to the people injured on September 11. Amazingly, they gave 5.9 million, which World Vision graciously agreed to distribute to those in need. 

Unselfish thinking and giving turned a very dark hour into one of light and hope. Less than two weeks after the tragedy, I was able to travel to Ground Zero in New York City. I went to view the site of the destruction, to thank the men and women clearing away the wreckage, and to pray for them. I can’t really do justice to what I saw. I’ve traveled to New York dozens of times. It’s one of my favorite places in the world. My wife and I had been up in the towers with our children many times before and have wonderful memories of that area. To look at the place where the buildings had once stood and to see nothing but rubble,dust, and twisted metal—it’s simply indescribable. What manyAmericans didn’t realize is that for many months people worked diligently to clean up the site. Many were New York City firefighters and other city workers. Others were volunteers. They worked around the clock, seven days a week. And when they came across the remains of someone in the rubble, they called for silence and reverently carried them out. Since I am a clergyman, I was asked to wear a clerical collar upon entering the area. As I walked around, many workers saw the collar and asked me to pray for them. It was a humbling privilege. American educator Horace Mann said, “Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity.” According to this standard, 

New York City’s firefighters are certainly prepared for death. The service they perform is often truly heroic. You and I may never be required to lay down our lives for others, as they did. But we can give to others in different ways. We can be unselfish thinkers who put others first and add value to their lives. We can work with them so that they go farther than they thought possible. 


Thinking Question

Am I continually considering others and their journey in order to think with maximum collaboration?

Categories
WISDOM

Learn from Reflective Thinking  

Advertisements

“To doubt everything or to believe everything are two equally convenient solutions; both dispense with the necessity of reflection.” —JULES HENRI POINCAR  

The pace of our society does not encourage reflective thinking. Most people would rather act than think. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m a person of action. I have very high energy and I like to see things accomplished. But I’m also a reflective thinker. Reflective thinking is like the Crock-Pot of the mind. It encourages your thoughts to simmer until they’re done. As I go through this process, my goal is to reflect so that I might learn from my successes and mistakes, discover what I should try to repeat, and determine what I should change. It is always a valuable exercise. By mentally visiting past situations, you can think with greater understanding. 

1. Reflective Thinking Gives You True Perspective 

When our children were young and still lived at home, we used to take them on beautiful vacations every year. When we got home, they always knew that I was going to ask them two questions: “What did you like best?” and “What did you learn?” It didn’t matter whether we went to Walt Disney World or Washington, D.C. I always asked those questions. Why? Because I wanted them to reflect on their experiences. 

Children don’t naturally grasp the value (or cost) of an ex-perience unless prompted. They take things for granted. I wanted my children to appreciate our trips and to learn from them. When you reflect, you are able to put an experience into perspective. You are able to evaluate its timing. And you are able to gain a new appreciation for things that before went unnoticed. Most people are able to recognize the sacrifices of their parents or other people only when they become parents themselves. That’s the kind of perspective that comes with reflection. 

2. Reflective Thinking Gives Emotional Integrity to Your Thought Life

Few people have good perspective in the heat of an emotional moment. Most individuals who enjoy the thrill of an experience try to go back and recapture it without first trying to evaluate it. (It’s one of the reasons our culture produces so many thrill seekers.) Likewise, those who survive a traumatic experience usually avoid similar situations at all costs, which sometimes ties them into emotional knots. Reflective thinking enables you to distance yourself from the intense emotions of particularly good or bad experiences and see them with fresh eyes. 

You can see the thrills of the past in the light of emotional maturity and examine tragedies in the light of truth and logic. That process can help a person to stop carrying around a bunch of negative emotional baggage. President George Washington observed, “We ought not to look back unless it is to derive useful lessons from past errors, and for the purpose of profiting by dearly bought experience.” Any feeling that can stand up to the light of truth and can be sustained over time has emotional integrity and is therefore worthy of your mind and heart. 

3. Reflective Thinking Increases Your Confidence in Decision-making 

Have you ever made a snap judgment and later wondered if you did the right thing? Everybody has. Reflective thinking can help to diffuse that doubt. It also gives you confidence for the next decision. Once you’ve reflected on an issue, you don’t have to repeat every step of the thinking process when you’re faced with it again. You’ve got mental road markers from having been there before. That compresses and speeds up thinking time—and it gives you confidence. And over time, it can also strengthen your intuition.

4. Reflective Thinking Clarifies the Big Picture 

When you engage in reflective thinking, you can put ideas and experiences into a more accurate context. Reflective thinking encourages us to go back and spend time pondering what we have done and what we have seen. If a person who loses his job reflects on what happened, he may see a pattern of events that led to his dismissal. He will better understand what happened, why it happened, and what things were his responsibility. If he also looks at the incidents that occurred afterward, he may realize that in the larger scheme of things, he’s better off in his new position because it better fits his skills and desires. Without reflection, it can be very difficult to see that big picture. 

5. Reflective Thinking Takes a Good Experience and Makes It a Valuable Experience 

When you were just starting out in your career, did it seem that few people were willing to give someone without experience an opportunity? At the same time, could you see people who had been on their jobs twenty years who yet did their work poorly? If so, that probably frustrated you. Playwright William Shakespeare wrote, “Experience is a jewel, and it had need be so, for it is often purchased at an infinite rate.” Yet, experience alone does not add value to a life. It’s not necessarily experience that is valuable; it’s the insight people gain because of their experience. 

Reflective thinking turns experience into insight. Mark Twain said, “We should be careful to get out of an experience all the wisdom that is in it—not like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove lid again—and that is well; but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore.”  An experience becomes valuable when it informs or equips us to meet new experiences. Reflective thinking helps to do that. 

HOW TO EMBRACE THE LESSONS OF REFLECTIVE THINKING


If you are like most people in our culture today, you probably do very little reflective thinking. If that’s the case, it may be holding you back more than you think. Take to heart the following suggestions to increase your ability to think reflectively: 

1. Set Aside Time for Reflection 

The Greek Orthodox philosopher Socrates observed, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” For most people, however, reflection and self-examination don’t come naturally. It can be a reasonably uncomfortable activity for a variety of reasons: they have a hard time staying focused; they find the process dull, or they don’t like spending a lot of time thinking about emotionally tricky issues. But if you don’t carve out the time for it, you are unlikely to do any reflective thinking. 

2. Remove Yourself from Distractions 

As much as any other kind of thinking, reflection requires solitude. Distraction and reflection simply don’t mix. It’s not the kind of thing you can do well near a television, in a cubicle, while the phone is ringing, or with children in the same room. One of the reasons I’ve been able to accomplish much and keep growing personally is that I’ve not only set aside time to reflect, but I’ve separated myself from distractions for short blocks of time: thirty minutes in the spa; an hour outside on a rock in my backyard; or a few hours in a comfortable chair in my office. The place doesn’t matter—as long as you remove yourself from distractions and interruptions. 

3. Regularly Review Your Calendar or Journal 

Most people use their calendar as a planning tool, which it is. But few people use it as a reflective thinking tool. What could be better, however, for helping you to review where you have been and what you have done —except maybe a journal? I’m not a journalist in the regular sense; I don’t use writing to figure out what I’m thinking and feeling. Instead, I figure out what I’m thinking and feeling, and then I write down significant thoughts and action points. (I file the thoughts so that I can quickly put my hands on them again. I immediately execute the action points or delegate them to someone else.) Calendars and journals remind you of how you’ve spent your time, show you whether your activities match your priorities, and help you see whether you are making progress. They also offer you an opportunity to recall activities that you might not have had the time to reflect on previously. Some of the most valuable thoughts you’ve ever had may have been lost because you didn’t give yourself the reflection time you needed. 

4. Ask the Right Questions 

The value you receive from reflecting will depend on the kinds of questions you ask yourself. The better the questions, the more gold you will mine from your thinking. When I reflect, I think in terms of my values, relationships, and experiences. Here are some sample questions: 

Personal Growth: What have I learned today that will help me grow? How can I apply it to my life? When should I apply it? 

Adding Value: To whom did I add value today? How do I know I added value to that person? Can I follow up and compound the positive benefit he or she received? 

  • Leadership: Did I lead by example today? Did I lift my people and organisation to a higher level? What did I do and how did I do it? 
  • Personal Faith: Did I represent God well today? Did I practice the Golden Rule? Have I “walked the second mile” with someone? 
  • Marriage and Family: Did I communicate love to my family today? How did I show that love? Did they feel it? Did they return it? 
  • Inner Circle: Have I spent enough time with my key players? What can I do to help them be more successful? In what areas can I mentor them? 
  • Discoveries: What did I encounter today to which I need to give more thinking time? Are there lessons to be learned? Are there things to be done? 

How you organize your reflection time is up to you. You may want to adapt my pattern to your own values. Or you can try a system that my friend Dick Biggs uses. He creates three columns on a sheet of paper: 

Year Turning Point Impact 


This system is good for reflecting on the bigger picture. Dick used it to see patterns in his life, such as when he moved to Atlanta and was encouraged by a new teacher to write. You could just as easily write “Event,” “Significance,” and “Action Point” on a page to help you benefit from reflective thinking. The main thing is to create questions that work for you, and write down any significant thoughts that come to you during the reflection time. 

5. Cement Your Learning Through Action 

Writing down the good thoughts that come out of your reflective thinking has value, but nothing helps you to grow like putting your thoughts into action. To do that, you must be intentional. When you read a good book, for example, there are always good thoughts, quotes, or lessons that you can take away from it and use yourself. I always mark the takeaways in a book and then reread them when I’m done with the book. When I listen to a message, I record the takeaways so that I can file them for future use. When I go to a seminar, I take good notes, and I use a system of symbols to cue me to do certain things:

  • An arrow like this → means to look at this material again. 
  • An asterisk like this * next to a marked section means to file it according to the subject noted.
  • A bracket like this [ means that I want to use what’s marked in a lecture or book. 
  • An arrow like this ← means this idea will take off if I work at it. 

When most people go to a conference or seminar, they enjoy the experience, listen to the speakers, and sometimes even take notes. But nothing happens after they go home. They like many of the concepts they hear, but when they close their notebooks, they don’t think about them again. When that happens, they receive little more than a temporary surge of motivation. When you go to a conference, revisit what you heard, reflect on it, and then put it into action; it can change your life. 

Ultimately, reflective thinking has three main values: it gives me perspective within context; it allows me to continually connect with my journey; and it provides counsel and direction concerning my future. It is an invaluable tool to my personal growth. Few things in life can help me learn and improve the way reflective thinking can.


 Thinking Question

Am I regularly revisiting the past to gain the right perspective and think with understanding?

Categories
AMERICAN PRESIDENT

“I don’t think he’s up for the job”: John Bolton talks Trump – RN Breakfast – ABC Radio National

Advertisements

https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/breakfast/i-dont-think-hes-up-for-the-job:-john-bolton-talks-trump/12433204

Those figures about were todays.

God help the American public

Here we go again the so-called Leader President is holding another Rally in the middle of a Pandemic confronting all Americans.

Shame on Donald Trump

The rest of the World is looking for Leadership from the most significant force on Earth.

Seems this time all Americans go to VOTE and heal our Earth

Amen

Categories
AMERICAN PRESIDENT

Mr President ~

Advertisements

“PLEASE, MR. PRESIDENT, BE A GOOD EXAMPLE”


Don’t let temptation take you in;

you know what you’ll attract?


Hateful things and they might make you act, Even eviler, and slippery is the slope, To regain balance and your life, so do not be a dope.


Right is a good example, for this can bring about, Redemption for the other ones, so, do not be a lot

And do not be a mean man or overlook the folk, Who are weak and need your lead.  Take this as no joke.


So, take your sensitivity, smile and be as kind,

As you know, and try to keep a calm, sincere mind.

And give respect to people, and let your conscience steer, You to the place of decency, where your heart can be bright.


And always pray for God’s love, which you can just ASK for, By being humble; do not mumble; pray upon the floor, Every day, and this will set the best example known,

For being sincere and straightforward, and you won’t be alone.


But realise resistance to humility’s at your door,

For many grab temptation, but this I do implore,  

Pray to God that you resist Temptation’s vile charms, To be a good example;

a bad one always harms.

Categories
HEALTH

EU promotes development of Ukrainian geographical indications

Advertisements

What awaits our producers which use European geographical indications in the names of their products, and why their own local brands are worth promoting?

EU promotes development of Ukrainian geographical indications

Thank you. I learnt something today

Kindness