If you struggle to fill something as big as life, it will swallow you. Too often we feel we need to prove ourselves, our worth, and our purpose. The infinite already knows your purpose for it is the very author of your purpose. Your perfect unfolding is the same as every other living and non-living thing which exists – it is your unstoppable nature.
At one time or another, we all try to please everyone, to be smart or pretty, to keep it all together and to do everything perfectly. We see life as having expectations that we must hurl ourselves at, and we believe that we must not fail. Through our expectations, we violently expand and try to fill the world and receive the world. Desperately expanding outward to fill the world is like an explosion where we disperse and lose ourselves. When we are quiet and still we contract and settle. Relax. You do not need to prove yourself.
“Many voices ask for our attention. There is a voice that says, ‘Prove that you are a good person.’ Another voice says, ‘You’d better be ashamed of yourself.’ There also is a voice that says, ‘Nobody really cares about you,’ and one that says, ‘Be sure to become successful, popular, and powerful.’ But underneath all these often very noisy voices is a still, small voice that says, ‘You are my Beloved, my favor rests on you.’ That’s the voice we need most of all to hear. To hear that voice, however, requires special effort; it requires solitude, silence, and a strong determination to listen” – Henri J.M. Nouwen
There are natural phases to all life, and wherever you are in life, you are perfectly becoming. Your pain and struggles only serve to remind you that you are alive. Accepting our pain is a way to say we treasure the sacred gift of life – run to your pain. Pain does not define us, neither does joy; our deepest definition is independent of our experiences. You are the observer who watches your emotions as they push, pull and stretch you. The beauty inside of you is unmovable. Your deepest and most truthful self does not care about trends, times, struggles, losses or worries. Your deepest self is free from the world’s petty, made-up demands, judgments, and expectations. You love yourself, and you are happy, and what you perceive as self-loathing and misery are really outside of you. Quit trying so hard. Sit quietly with yourself and you will see that there are no demands within you. Only your surface is disturbed; in your deepness there is stillness and total tranquility. Only your surface feels empty and longing; in your depths there is a firm weight of fullness.
“Nothing has to happen immediately, this minute, or right now. It’s okay to pause for just a moment. Just take a breath. Then go quietly inside. Ask life itself to lead you to your best outcome. There’s nothing you have to do, really, except get out of your own way” – Neale Donald Walsch
There is a madness in the false world we have created; that world’s only lessons are tension and fear – relax into yourself. Take your lessons from nature. Let quietness instruct you. If you pay attention and listen to quietness, you will notice a nearly imperceptible thread of consciousness, like a quiet hum or a perception of time. We have all noticed this feeling when we have been alone in nature, or in a quiet room alone. This space of consciousness peacefully advances – undisturbed by the surface tensions in your responsive mind. You can move into this space of mind at will; you are a dimension of this awareness. You are this calm thread of awareness witnessing the gentle unfolding of your perfect self. When you commune with your ever-present inner calm, you are released from the madness and pain of all outer turmoil. Your unstoppable nature is becoming and blooming – you simply, are. Go easy. Don’t search for your purpose. You are not defining your purpose – your purpose is defining you. You are unfolding with profound purpose; your purpose is revealing you, to yourself. Run to yourself. Life is so big. Do not try to fill it. Instead, expand within. You are enough for you! Share this with someone you love and be blessed!