Taking on my own psychoanalysis has seriously triggered all the reasons I did not fall in love with what passes for psychotherapy in the modern world. In my life, I’ve known lots of people who’ve come through Esalen, est & assorted other groups & movements associated with words such as “new age, human potential, self help, get well, transformational, experimental lifestyles, etc.” After all the time & energy I’ve spent on this subject, about the most positive thing I can say about what I see being dispensed is that some therapists help some people some of the time, but there’s very little actual evidence to support the effectiveness any particular therapy.
The biggest issue I have with all the models for dealing with the life challenges therapies attempt to address is that they’re all based on the idea that there is something inherently wrong with who we are & there are people who will fix our problem (i.e. low self-esteem) for a price. How will we know when we have been “made whole?” (Good luck on getting a straight answer to that one!)
Let’s consider that the basic precept upon which most therapies are based, the belief that we are fundamentally flawed beings, is totally bogus. It is true that we have all been exposed to a body of concepts that come from a variety of sources, including education, religion, conditioning, mass culture, etc. & these sources would have us believe we are damaged goods.
So, are we, as conscious beings, compelled to accept the idea that we are wrong the way we presently exist, or have we been served a bunch of shit? Perhaps, instead of trying to fix those parts of who we are, we should consider the possibility that we are complete & whole beings just the way we are. Before you discard that idea as naïve, how about we also consider opening our minds? In fact, how do we know we are not a moment away, from experiencing the most glorious & wonderful time of our lives? After all, how many among us have realized the full extent of our creative potential? For all we really know, this could be our finest hour, the time when we fulfill our purpose for being alive at this time & place. I think untapped creative energy is one of the most powerful forces potentially available to all of us.
As I conducted my ongoing, personal self psychoanalysis, I stopped considering “what’s wrong with me” & I started asking “what will make me a better human being & that includes being happier than I am right now?” For the record, I have great family & friends, a roof over my head & enough food, money & booze to make it through the next week or so & it feels like there’s something I’d like to add on in the way of fun & that includes companionship.