Stop blaming and start being! We attract what we are. We attract who we are. If you don’t like something in your life, look only at who you are. Who you are is why you choose friends and situations in your life. Who you are is why you choose poorly or fail to choose wisely. Stop being a victim! When you blame others, you are effectively proclaiming that you are only responsible for stimuli. But you are much more than a mere reaction to stimuli. When you blame others, you are affirming that you have no power, and your existence is only a reaction to the power of others. But, you are powerful if you choose to be. You can choose to be proactive, assertive and self-defining. You can choose better relationships, better jobs, better places to live, better uses of your time and better ways of treating yourself. Look in the mirror and talk with your real boss. Find a new and better leader within yourself, for yourself. Lead your life with unconditional love and friendship; self-love, and as your friend. Lead with honesty, total integrity, compassion, patience and tolerance – toward yourself! If you live with values for yourself, then you become of great importance to all who know you. It starts with you. Quit waiting for others to give to you; it is not going to happen. You are all-powerful, take control of your life’s situations rather than being a passive bystander.
You see, reconciliation with others and the world begins within. If you don’t get right with yourself, then nothing in this life will ever make you happy. Blame is very tricky in that it seems like a way out when it is really a form of imprisonment. Until you stop blaming and become positively self-critical you are not going to move forward. You think that if you blame, you will then be free of those problems, but blame cements you to your problems. You have to take responsibility. Empowerment is never about blame; it is about taking personal responsibility. Taking personal responsibility is not about being “responsible” – it is about seeing your truth and evolving. People who blame are always looking to “get out” of something, but like quicksand, the more they struggle the more they are captive. Blame anchors us into the past; a place we cannot change. Acceptance frees us to the future. Even when something is not your fault, toxic blame has no place in your life. Focus on your own empowerment and healing. If you set a clear standard for yourself; for how you wish to be treated – people will take note. Rather than communicating blame, communicate your standards for proper future treatment. We must do better must always translate into, “I must do better”.
“You have two choices, you can keep running and hiding and blaming the world for your problems, or you can stand up for yourself and decide to be somebody important” – Sidney Sheldon
Ultimately, everything is entirely up to you. Quit looking for the answers outside of yourself. The invitation to something better is not arriving from any source outside of yourself – ever. Those who get the invitation are the ones who realise that the invitation-only comes from deep within. Permit yourself to be free from the past. You are the authority and the gatekeeper of your own life. Once you become something, only then, are you worthy of it. The life you want is a manifestation of self-realisation. It is easy; just be – to receive. Manifesting is primarily about identity, and secondarily about action. Begin accepting your gifts now. You can have every wonderful thing life can bestow, by being every wonderful thing to others.
Curtail blaming and start being. Everything comes by being! Be the unconditional love you seek.
Be the friend you seek. Be the lover you seek.
Be the honesty you seek.
Be the integrity you seek.
Be the patience you seek.
Be the tolerance you seek.
Be the compassion you seek!