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No self-published author should publish their work without paying a professional to edit it first. Even if you’re hoping to traditionally publish your book, the agent or publisher will be looking for a polished sample that engages them with the story, not the several typos on page one alone.
But what if you don’t have the money to pay for an editor? Or what if you want to keep your costs down by doing as much editing on your own as you can? The better you can make your novel on your own, the better your editor can help you make it together. Think of it like football: Get the ball as far down the field as you can, then pass the ball to your editor. Together you can go for goal.
If you want people to actually read what you’ve written, you must master the art of ferociously self-editing your own manuscript.
These days, anyone can get anything printed. It doesn’t even have to be good. If you have the money, you can find someone who will print whatever you submit as is.
So you must separate yourself from the competition by ensuring your manuscript is the absolute best it can be.
Yes, a traditional publisher will have its own editors and proofreaders. But to even get that far, your manuscript has to be better than a thousand other submissions they receive per day. Can it do that?
And if you’re self-publishing, the only way to stand out against even more competition is by ferociously editing your own book until it’s as crisp and clean as possible – it has to be as professional as anything that big publisher who turned you down can churn out.
There’s little worse than a self-published book that looks like one.
So, You Must Learn How to Edit a Book
Whether you’re going to hire an editor, or hope to be assigned one by a traditional publisher, your responsibility is to get your book manuscript to the highest level it can be before you pass it on.
Never settle for, “That’s the best I can do; now fix it for me.”
Why should they?
Because sadly, if you attempt the traditional publishing route, you could pour your whole life into a manuscript and get no more than five minutes of an editor’s time before your book is rejected.
Sounds unfair, doesn’t it?
But as one who has been on both sides of the desk for more than two decades, let me tell you there are reasons for it:
Why Publishers Reject Your Manuscript After Reading Just Two Pages
Editors can tell within a page or two how much editing would be required to make a manuscript publishable; if it would take a lot of work in every sentence, the labor cost alone would disqualify it.
An editor can tell immediately whether a writer understands what it means to grab a reader by the throat and not let go.
Have too many characters been introduced too quickly?
Does the writer understand and utilize point of view?
Is the setting and tone interesting?
Do we have a sense of where the story is headed, or is there too much throat clearing? (This is a literary term for a chapter or story that starts with pages of description or scene setting but no actual action.)
Is the story subtle and evocative, or is it on-the-nose?
Yes, a professional editor can determine all this with a quick read of the first two to three pages. They want your story to stand out, and no amount of beautifully descriptive prose is going to hide the fact that you don’t have a sufficient plot.
If you find yourself saying, “But they didn’t even get to the good stuff,” then you need to put the good stuff earlier in your manuscript.
So today, I want to zero in on tight writing and self-editing. It will help you as a writer, and lower the costs when hiring a professional editor – after all, the less they have to do, the less they will charge.
If you’re ready to learn how to edit your own book before hiring a professional, take a look at my FREE self-editing guide that will take you through each aspect of your story, from plot, to characters, to sentence structure to point of view. The more boxes you can check for your manuscript, the leaner, meaner, and more ready it will be for submission to an editor, publisher or reader.

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How to Build Self-Esteem After a Verbally Abusive Relationship

How to Build Self-Esteem After a Verbally Abusive Relationship

Moving on after a verbally abusive relationship is challenging because your abuser has convinced you that your character is somehow deficient. Verbal abuse can leave you with enduring psychological wounds; scars that can influence every part of your life and damage your self-esteem. Best-selling author, Patricia Evans, founded the Evans Interpersonal Communications Institute in order to emphasize the devastating consequences of verbal abuse. She says, “Verbal abuses creates emotional pain and mental anguish. It is a lie told to you or about you. Generally, verbal abuse defines people telling them what they are, what they think, their motives, and so forth.”

Step 1
Confront the pain. Allow yourself to express any negative emotions you have towards your abuser. Face your anger and sadness. Recognize that the abuse wasn’t a result of your deficiencies, but a result of your abuser’s defects.

Don’t attempt to hide your emotions. Repressing the anger can force you to simply accept the abuse as a reality, rather than allowing yourself to face the devastating consequences of the manipulation, says psychoanalyst Jane Bolton. She says that by suppressing the resentment, you’re allowing your abuser to hold emotional control over you. As a result, the “…internal pressure builds up until the self-suppressing can no longer hold and emotional eruption follow.” Subsequently, she says, you feel “…remorse, shame, and self-esteem plummets.”

Step 2
Direct your feelings towards a constructive outlet. Find an active means by which you can express your frustrations. Engage in activities that allow you to focus on your well-being and your self-improvement.

Challenge yourself by participating in new hobbies. Sign up for a half-marathon and join a marathon-training group, take martial arts classes, participate in a cooking challenge or register for an intellectually demanding class at a local college. Your abuser has controlled you through domination and submission techniques, says social scientist and educator, Michael J. Formica. Give yourself an opportunity to recognize your strengths and prove that you can achieve success, even when you’re presented with a difficult task.

Step 3
Give and receive support. Find a support group for victims of abuse. Not only can you receive help for coping with your suffering, but you can also assist others in their journey through the pain. Empathizing with others can produce a healing effect in victims, says Bolton.

She says that the ability to recognize a need for understanding and compassion in regard to others can “…heal and support blossoming of the self and relationships.” Be open and honest within the group by sharing your experiences and receiving feedback from other victims who have shared some of the same hardships—you’re not alone. Bolton says that when you see someone who’s attempting to understand how you feel, it can give you a “…burst of hope, optimism and energy. That renewed energy brings us closer to being able to act upon what we need…” and permits you to take care of your physical and emotional needs.

Step 4
Replace negative self-talk. Replace the negative thoughts or words in your head with positive self-affirmations. Remind yourself that you were strong enough to leave the abuse and move on with your life.

Make a list of what has changed since you left the relationship and compare it to your life when you were absorbed in the abuse. Focus on your needs and do whatever it is that allows you to feel a sense of joy and accomplishment. Psychologist Daniel Tomasulo says that you should take time each day to identify and ponder the positive aspects in your life. He says that if you focus on moments of happiness or inspiration, you can transfer your “…mindset toward finding and savoring the good things in our life which, in turn, allows for a genuine resilience in our spirit, mind, and body.”

Ways to Boost Your Confidence After Divorce

Ways to Boost Your Confidence After Divorce

Regardless of the nature of the split, your confidence is likely sagging after the end of the marriage. Here are some small and large ways you can rebuild your confidence as you work to rebuild your life:

1) Sign up for something with a finish line
This can be a race. A degree program. Anything that has a line to cross and a process to get there. I promise you’ll be smiling when you’ve reached the end.

2) Write and post an achievement list
This is a time to brag on yourself to yourself. Create a list of all that you have accomplished in your life. Post it where you will see it every day. Let it bring perspective that your current situation is only temporary.

3) Invest in an item that makes you feel attractive – I bought one dress that I wore on almost every first date I went on. It made me feel beautiful at a time when nothing else could. Find that one item that makes you feel good and wear the hell out of it. Careful here, notice I said one item. Don’t blow your budget in a quest for confidence.

4) Create a list of goals and track your progress
My goal post lived above my computer for the first year. Every time I felt unsure, I would look to see what I had accomplished and what I still wanted to do. It was motivation and recognition rolled into one.

5) Change your password to an affirmation
In our modern life, we enter passwords all day long. Why not make that password work for you? How would you feel if you typed, “BetterEveryDay” or “IW1llSurv1Ve” several times a day?

6) Flirt and be flirted with
You don’t have to be ready to date to meet someone’s eye and exchange some flirty banter. It feels good to be reaffirmed of your desirability. Go for it.

7) Write the timeline of your divorce and recognize your progress
Often we feel discouraged because we are so focused on the here-and-now that we don’t realize how far we have come. See it. Celebrate your progress.

8) Surround yourself with quotes and pictures that lift you up
Put them on your walls. Your computer. Your phone. Your car. Your jewelry. Let every surface whisper to you.

9) Take a break
Sometimes you just need to step away from it all for a few hours or even a few days. If you can, go on a solo trip. It’s exciting and empowering.

10) Put down the self-help and pick up some fiction
The divorce books have their place, but if you’re needing confidence, trade it in for some great stories about strong protagonists facing and overcoming challenges. The courage is contagious.

To boost your self-esteem can seem like a monumental task, especially when you’re experiencing self-defeating thoughts and feelings.

To boost your self-esteem can seem like a monumental task, especially when you’re experiencing self-defeating thoughts and feelings. However, when you step back, you can see that low self-esteem is really just a continuous cycle, and breaking any part of that cycle can stop the whole thing in its tracks.

1. Do Something Kind For Someone
When you’re in a low self-esteem cycle, it can be difficult to see outside of yourself. You become so focused on what your limitations are that you can’t see the pain others might be experiencing.

But when you actively seek out doing something kind for someone else or something good for your environment, your focus shifts. Not only will your obsessive, negative thoughts about yourself stop, you’ll also begin to think positive things about yourself. Positive actions attract positive thoughts.

2. Take Care Of Your Appearance
Your outward appearance is often a reflection of how you feel on the inside. Have you ever noticed that when you’re sick, people say “You don’t look well”? Our bodies are connected to our spirit and mind and they all reflect each other.

When you have low self-esteem, it often shows through how you take care of yourself.

Small things like picking out something flattering to wear, taking time to style your hair differently, or accessorizing an outfit can seem vain and superficial, but they can actually make you immediately feel better about yourself. The lesson here is not about vanity; it’s about treating yourself kindly.

3. Change Your Scenery
A great (and fun!) way to break a low self-esteem cycle is to do something completely out of the ordinary.

It can be as simple as traveling a different route to work in the morning, taking a short weekend vacation to a place you’ve never visited, or working from a cafe you’ve always wanted to check out.

Doing something you’ve never done before or being somewhere you’ve never been to can quickly refresh your mind and break negative thought patterns. We have a tendency to get stuck in a small bubble, neglecting to see that the universe is vast and our problems are usually a lot smaller than we make them out to be.

Changing your scenery can give you a fresh perspective and motivate you to make positive changes rather than dwell in the negative. Give it a shot.

4. Write Down Your Accomplishments
Think back to all of the accomplishments you’ve had. Get out a pen and paper and start writing them down.

It seems simple, but as your list grows, you’ll start to see that not only have you accomplished some impressive things, you are capable of even more.

You might begin to see patterns of times when you felt really good about yourself and accomplished a lot of great things. This exercise can help you tune in to the parts of yourself that know you’re adequate, capable and extraordinary!

5. Teach Someone Something
There are definitely things you know that other people don’t.

Maybe you’re a great writer or you’re really proficient in math. Perhaps you know how to organize a messy closet, or you know how to change a tire on a car.

Simple knowledge that you may take for granted could be something that someone else is seeking to learn.

By teaching someone a skill or imparting some of your know-how, you not only share knowledge with them, you prove to yourself how amazing and unique of person you are, one that can share valuable gifts with the world.

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Confident person

What is a confident person?
Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.

A confident person:
does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular
is willing to take risks
admits their mistakes and learns from them
is able to accept a compliment
is optimistic.

Tips for building self-confidence
There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.

1. Look at what you’ve already achieved
It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you’ve done.

2. Think of things you’re good at
Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.

3. Set some goals
Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.

4. Talk yourself up
You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.

5. Get a hobby
Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.

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Be the most honest person that you know. Be trustworthy – worthy of the trust of others.😁

Be the most honest person that you know. Be trustworthy – worthy of the trust of others.

Curb your worldly desires and you will strengthen your will. He who is deeply bound to material things runs into difficulty and unhappiness when they are taken away. Happy people enjoy worldly objects but do not become bound or wedded to them. Live a simple, uncluttered and productive existence. To simplify your life today, consider selling your television, stopping the junk mail, spending less, learning yoga, selling your car, practising meditation every morning and unplugging your ringing phone once in a while.

If you have not laughed today, you have not lived today. Laugh hard and loud. As William James said: “we don’t laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh.”

Read The Charisma Factor – How to Develop Your Natural Leadership Ability by Robert J. Richardson and S. Katharine Thayer. It is a superb book for any aspiring leader, or a current one, who seeks to advance to the next level.

Travel often. The perspective offered by visiting new lands is important and allows one to appreciate the existence that we generally take for granted.

Each month set a physical fitness goal for yourself. Start to swim in July or learn to ski in January. The key is to arrive at a goal for the month, write it down, consider how to execute it and then, as the NIKE ad says: “Just Do It!”.

Things are always created twice. There is always the mental creation which precedes the physical creation. Just as plans for a house must first be set down on paper before the house is started, so too should your day be planned within your mind early in the morning before the day begins. Visualize the wonders you desire this life to bring and they will materialize as your subconscious mind starts to focus on the attainment of goals. This is a true law of Nature.

Walk to work and notice the wonderful beauty in Nature.

Sleep less, spend less, do more, live longer and be greater.

Strong Women Quotes

Physiology of Business

1. “The best way to overcome undesirable or negative thoughts and feelings is to cultivate the positive ones.”
2. “A mental image gives you a framework upon which to work. It is like the drawing of the architect, or the map of the explorer. Think over this for a few moments until you get the idea firmly fixed in your mind.”
3. “The presence of an active, energetic, successful man, or set of men, in a place, will permeate the place with positive vibrations that will stimulate all who abide there.”
4. “The use of the will as the projector of mentative currents is the real base of all mental magic.”
5. “The mind has been likened to a piece of paper that has been folded. Ever afterwards it has a tendency to fold in the same crease–unless we make a new crease or fold, when it will follow the last lines.”
6. “Nothing can prevent your picture from coming into concrete form except the same power which gave it birth – yourself.”
7. “Everyone visualizes whether he knows it or not. Visualizing is the great secret of success.”
8. “We all possess more power and greater possibilities than we realize, and visualizing is one of the greatest of these powers.”
9. “What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.”
10. “The thought manifests as the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into habit. And the habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care. And let it spring from love, born out of concern for all beings.”
11. “Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.”
12. “What you are is what you have been. Who you will be is what you do now.”
13. “The Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life.”
14. “Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.”
15. “Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviors. Keep your behaviors positive, because your behaviors become your habits. Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.”
16. “Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”
17. “A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks he becomes.”
18. “We often become what we believe ourselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. When I believe I can, I acquire the ability to do it, even if I didn’t have it in the beginning.”
19. “The predominant thought or the mental attitude is the magnet, and the law is that like attracts like. Consequently, the mental attitude will invariably attract such conditions as to correspond to its nature”
20. “There is no limit to what this law can do for you; dare to believe in your own ideal; think of the ideal as an already accomplished fact.”
21. “To acquire love, fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet.”
22. “The vibrations of mental forces are the finest and consequently the most powerful in existence”
23. “Any idea, plan or purpose may be placed in the mind though repetition of thought.”
24. “Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.”
25. “The vast majority of people are born, grow up, struggle, and go through life in misery and failure, not realizing that it would be just as easy to switch over and get exactly what they want out of life, not recognizing that the mind attracts the thing it dwells upon.”
26. “Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.”
27. “Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”
28. “Every person who has been moved by genuine love, knows that it leaves enduring traces upon the human heart”
29. “The man who succeeds must always in mind or imagination live, move, think, and act as if he had gained that success, or he will never gain it.”
30. “Fear is but another name for lack of power to control our minds, or, in other words, to control the kind of thought we think or put out.”
31. “The arrow always tipped with ill nature and sarcasm is deadliest to him who sends it.”
32. “Our thought is the unseen magnet, ever attracting its correspondence in things seen and tangible.”
33. “Gratitude is an attitude that hooks us up to our source of supply. And the more grateful you are, the closer you become to your maker, to the architect of the universe, to the spiritual core of your being. It’s a phenomenal lesson.”
34. “If you’re thinking of debt, that’s what you’re going to attract.”
35. “Let’s start with what we can be thankful for, and get our mind into that vibration, and then watch the good that starts to come, because one thought leads to another thought.”
36. “Music in the soul can be heard by the universe.”
37. “To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.”
38. “If you would take, you must first give, this is the beginning of intelligence.”
39. “The wise man does not lay up his own treasures. The more he gives to others, the more he has for his own.”
40. “To see things in the seed, that is genius.”
41. “Great indeed is the sublimity of the Creative, to which all beings owe their beginning and which permeates all heaven.”
42. “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”
43. “It’s really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher.”
44. “As soon as you start to feel differently about what you already have, you will start to attract more of the good things, more of the things you can be grateful for.”
45. “Thoughts are sending out that magnetic signal that is drawing the parallel back to you”
46. “You can serve God and man in no more effective way than by getting rich; that is, if you get rich by the creative method and not by the competitive one.”
47. “Thought is the creative power, or the impelling force which causes the creative power to act; thinking in a Certain Way will bring riches to you, but you must not rely upon thought alone, paying no attention to personal action. That is the rock upon which many otherwise scientific metaphysical thinkers meet shipwreck–the failure to connect thought with personal action.”
48. “You are to become a creator, not a competitor; you are going to get what you want, but in such a way that when you get it every other man will have more than he has now.” –
49. “Many people who order their lives rightly in all other ways, are kept in poverty by their lack of gratitude”
50. “The grateful mind is constantly fixated upon the best. Therefore, it tends to become the best. It takes the form or character from the best, and will receive the best.”
51. “By thought, the thing you want is brought to you. By action, you receive it”
52. “Give every man more in use value than you take from him in cash value; then you are adding to the life of the world by every business transaction”
53. “The more gratefully we fix our minds on the Supreme when good things come to us, the more good things we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come; and the reason simply is that the mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which the blessings come.”

The Secret to Effortless Detachment😁

Detachment from the outcome you want to experience is vital to creating your ideal reality. To be attached is to live in the fear that what you want will not materialize and traps you in a continuous state of desire. Attachment to anything or anyone turns love into fear and belief into doubt. In contrast, faith allows you to detach yourself from the outcome and transforms your desires into your choice.
Attachment is Giving Away Your Power:
The instant you attach yourself to a specific person’s actions or words or to a certain outcome, you give your power away to external forces and circumstances. In effect, you give away your power to create your own reality. To be attached to anything or to anyone is to tell yourself that you are somehow incomplete without that person, thing or event in your life. In so doing you fail to see the divine perfection in what is, as it is. Instead, you create within yourself a desperate need to control the process and a sense of doubt whether what you want will manifest. Attachment breeds doubt and as Khalil Gibran said: “Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother”.
Faith is the Antidote for Attachment:
Detachment Transforms Desire into Choice: Paradoxically, desire keeps your desires away from you because to desire something is to acknowledge its absence in your life. When you become certain of the outcome, then your desire becomes your choice. Your choice is your intention, it is your will. It transforms “what could be” into “what is” and dissolves all doubt. When you will something, you no longer desire it to happen, you choose for it to do so. Remember that we were all given “free will”. You have the free will to create the reality of your choice in accordance with your needs.
When you detach yourself from the outcome you will instantly feel your doubt and fear transforming into a deep sense of knowing and certainty. This is faith. Faith is the route to true detachment. It is the only way to willingly hand over your choices to the Omnipotence of the One Universal Consciousness of which you are a part. To have faith does not mean to sit back and wish things could be different. It is to relax in the knowledge that your choice has already manifested in the mental realm from which all things manifest, and to take inspired action toward that specific outcome materializing in the physical world. Faith is not blind. To the contrary, it is “the evidence of things not seen”.
Making Detachment Effortless:
Detachment comes naturally when you know, understand and apply the truth that you are one with the Universal Mind – the All, the One Creator – for which nothing is impossible. Whenever you feel a sense of panic or a need to control the process, whether in your day-to-day thoughts or during your creative visualization sessions, then know that you are most probably in a state of attachment. At that moment, relax and remind yourself that in the conscious creation process, time is an illusion of the physical realm and that what you have chosen to experience is in the process of transforming from a non-physical to a physical state. You can only ever be in control when you have no need to control.
Do Not Confuse Detachment with Quitting:
To detach is not the same as quitting on your choices. On the contrary, it is to feel so calmly certain of their manifestation in your life that you no longer have to worry, wonder or even think about them. When you are detached you feel more powerful, determined and clear in your thoughts. A simple way you can tell whether you have detached or quit is by gauging how you feel. In other words, when you detach you feel empowered, when you quit you feel disempowered.
Letting Go Allows for Flow:
When you are attached to the manifestation of a specific outcome, you place yourself in a state of resistance to what is, and as the saying goes “what you resist persists”. To detach shifts your state into one of total non-resistance where panic transforms into peace of mind and certainty. This is the state which allows life to flow. This is the state which allows for your desires to become your choice and your choice to become your reality. It maximizes your thought power and allows your choices to manifest in the shortest period as you consciously align yourself with the Law of Attraction. It enables you to enjoy the process and know that everything is in perfect order as it is. When you are detached, life becomes a game to be enjoyed.
“This or Something Better”:
Detachment allows you to experience the full gamut of life. You open yourself up to experiences and events infinitely more joyful than perhaps even those that you initially desired for yourself. This is why it is important to always say “this or something better” when you choose something in your life. When you can say that with all honesty, then you know you are truly detached.
In a nutshell, detachment is vital to allowing your ideal reality to manifest in your physical world. Attachment breeds panic, fear and disempowerment which detachment transforms into peace of mind, certainty and empowerment. Detachment transforms your desire into your choice. The route to detachment is faith. The truth that you are One with the Universal Mind and that everything in your outside world is a reflection of your inner world, makes detachment effortless.

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Powerful Ways To Instantly Boost Your Self Esteem

Powerful Ways To Instantly Boost Your Self Esteem

To boost your self-esteem can seem like a monumental task, especially when you’re experiencing self-defeating thoughts and feelings. However, when you step back, you can see that low self-esteem is really just a continuous cycle, and breaking any part of that cycle can stop the whole thing in its tracks.

1. Do Something Kind For Someone
When you’re in a low self-esteem cycle, it can be difficult to see outside of yourself. You become so focused on what your limitations are that you can’t see the pain others might be experiencing.

But when you actively seek out doing something kind for someone else or something good for your environment, your focus shifts. Not only will your obsessive, negative thoughts about yourself stop, you’ll also begin to think positive things about yourself. Positive actions attract positive thoughts.

2. Take Care Of Your Appearance
Your outward appearance is often a reflection of how you feel on the inside. Have you ever noticed that when you’re sick, people say “You don’t look well”? Our bodies are connected to our spirit and mind and they all reflect each other.

When you have low self-esteem, it often shows through how you take care of yourself.

Small things like picking out something flattering to wear, taking time to style your hair differently, or accessorizing an outfit can seem vain and superficial, but they can actually make you immediately feel better about yourself. The lesson here is not about vanity; it’s about treating yourself kindly.

3. Change Your Scenery
A great (and fun!) way to break a low self-esteem cycle is to do something completely out of the ordinary.

It can be as simple as traveling a different route to work in the morning, taking a short weekend vacation to a place you’ve never visited, or working from a cafe you’ve always wanted to check out.

Doing something you’ve never done before or being somewhere you’ve never been to can quickly refresh your mind and break negative thought patterns. We have a tendency to get stuck in a small bubble, neglecting to see that the universe is vast and our problems are usually a lot smaller than we make them out to be.

Changing your scenery can give you a fresh perspective and motivate you to make positive changes rather than dwell in the negative. Give it a shot.

4. Write Down Your Accomplishments
Think back to all of the accomplishments you’ve had. Get out a pen and paper and start writing them down.

It seems simple, but as your list grows, you’ll start to see that not only have you accomplished some impressive things, you are capable of even more.

You might begin to see patterns of times when you felt really good about yourself and accomplished a lot of great things. This exercise can help you tune in to the parts of yourself that know you’re adequate, capable and extraordinary!

5. Teach Someone Something
There are definitely things you know that other people don’t.

Maybe you’re a great writer or you’re really proficient in math. Perhaps you know how to organize a messy closet, or you know how to change a tire on a car.

Simple knowledge that you may take for granted could be something that someone else is seeking to learn.

By teaching someone a skill or imparting some of your know-how, you not only share knowledge with them, you prove to yourself how amazing and unique of person you are, one that can share valuable gifts with the world.

Life Success 🌼

Become an adventurer. Revitalize your spirit and sense of playfulness. Become a kid again. Once every few months, plan to enjoy a new, thrilling activity such as white water rafting, scuba diving, windsurfing, rock climbing, joining a martial arts club, sailing, deep sea fishing or camping. This will keep your life in perspective, bring you closer to those you share the activity with and keep you feeling invigorated and young.
Spend time with Nature. Natural settings have a powerful effect on your senses which in turn will lead to a sense of renewal, refreshment and peacefulness. Peak performers through the ages have understood the importance of getting back to Nature. Start camping or simply taking quiet walks in the forest. Rest by a sparkling stream. Cultivate your own little garden which will serve as your personal oasis in the middle of a crowded city. By cultivating a friendship with Nature, you will quickly find more serenity, contentment and richness in your life.
Recall the wise saying “men sana in corpore sano” which means in a sound body rests a sound mind. Never neglect the body which is intimately connected to the mind. This is your temple. Feed it the finest fuels, exercise daily and care for it as you would your prized possession – because it is.
Be so strong that nothing interferes with your peace of mind. A well-known boxer was once unhappy. When asked why, he said that he had allowed himself to think a negative thought. Curb your desires and stay centered and focused – it gets easier with practice. You truly cannot afford the luxury of even one negative thought.
Do not eat three hours before sleep. This allows for smoother digestion and a more restful sleep. For deeper, more renewing sleep, remember that a daily dose of exercise promotes good sleep as does a period of relaxation an hour before bed. Also do not bring work to bed with you or think about anything which might agitate you. Ease yourself into sleep like a baby being sung a soft, soothing lullaby. And finally, as Leonardo da Vinci said: “a well-spent day brings happy sleep.”
Be careful about your reputation. If it is good it will take you to the highest of heights. But once tarnished, it will be difficult to retrieve. Always reflect on your course of action. Never do anything you wouldn’t be proud to tell your mother about. Have always fun but temper it with common sense and prudence.
Find mentors to model who will guide you in your progress. The mistakes of the world have all been made once before – why shouldn’t you have the benefit of the experience of others? Find someone who has both courage and consideration for others, someone who is therefore mature. Your mentor must have only your best interests in mind and should be sufficiently senior to offer you good guidance on the subjects you seek assistance with. Everyone needs to feel appreciated and even the busiest of executives will find time to assist a person who respects them and values their advice.
Make a list of all your weaknesses. A truly confident and enlightened person will note a weakness and seek to methodically improve. Bear in mind that even the greatest and most powerful people have weaknesses. Some are better than others in hiding them. On the other hand, get to know your best qualities and cultivate them.
Never complain. Be known as a positive, strong, energetic and enthusiastic person. Someone who complains, is cynical and always looks for the negative in everything, will scare people away and will rarely succeed at anything. From a purely psychological viewpoint, things are always created twice: once in the mind and then in reality. Focus on the positive. Be so mentally tough that nothing takes you off your planned course to success. Visualize and firmly believe in what you want. It will most certainly come true.
Overlook the weaknesses of your friends. If you look for flaws you will most surely find them. Be mature enough to ignore the petty failings of others and see the good that each one inherently possesses. We can learn from everyone. Everyone has a story to tell, a joke to share and a lesson to learn. Open your mind to this and you will learn a tremendous amount. Friends are so very important to a happy existence – especially those who have shared many experiences and laughs with you. Work hard to make friendships, and all your relationships for that matter, stronger and richer. Call your friends, buy them small gifts of books or other items you believe they might enjoy. The “law of the farm” applies to relationships as well as to the rest of life – you reap what you sow and to have great friends you must first be one.

Boost Confidence 🌼

Accept that you have made mistakes
We have all made mistakes in our lives. But you can choose to see those mistakes as lessons. If you look back on all the choices in your life that you regret, I know you will find a lesson. Sometimes they are buried deep, but they are always there.
Forgive
Your mistakes may have hurt people. Maybe other people’s mistakes have hurt you. Either way, you need to let them go if you want to change your life. Carrying around shame, blame or guilt for things that have happened in the past only blocks your heart from being able to manifest for you to life you want and deserve. So give yourself permission to let it go.
Watch your thoughts
Negative thoughts will always arise, but you have the power to choose how much air-time you give them. It is totally within your control whether your negative thoughts about yourself or your life get prime time or end up on the cutting room floor.
When you notice a negative though coming up for you, change what you are doing. Stand up, sit down, shake your head, take a deep breath, do something. You need to practice removing the unconscious negativity program that is on repeat in the back of your mind, and by moving your body or making a sound, you disrupt that thought process.
Bring in the positive
Once you become aware of a negative thought, replace it. Use the new awareness you have gained to speak nicely to yourself, even give yourself an internal high five! Focus on bringing a positive feeling of love or joy into your mind and then visualise your life from this place.
Practice these steps daily, hourly, whenever you can! Pretty soon you’ll notice how your self-confidence, and your life, has changed for the better.
Choose your thoughts every day. Choose thoughts of confidence and possibility. Mix these thoughts with feelings of gratitude, and you will soon realise that your self-confidence is improving, simply because you say so. Consciously.
The law of self-praise works for BOTH types of people: those who believe they are great and deserve success, and those who believe they are poor and deserve misery or failure. The question is: what do you believe about yourself? And how do you install new thoughts into your mind to attract success instead of failure?
One way is to use affirmations and declarations. Write down positive words, inspirational quotes and motivational sayings on a daily basis. Repeat these over and over again, a few times a day, first thing in the morning, throughout the day and late at night, or before you go to sleep. Make them part of your thinking routine, and eliminate and replace the non-supportive thoughts every time you are aware of them.
We learned how to improve self-confidence using Positive affirmations consciously.
You know how successful people build self-confidence, self-esteem and self-respect right seed at the right time, always believing in their possibility. You recognise that what think of, you attract. And when you emotionalise your thoughts Surround yourself with positive people, and form the habit of repeating positive, encouraging affirmations, on a daily basis. This is the key to increase self-confidence.