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Dare yourself to wallow on what lies beyond the familiar. Never let mediocrity be your identity. Remember, opportunities don’t always come knocking at your door, so huddle all the grit that you have within to take that first step away from what you’re accustomed to. If you are daunted in facing the unknown and unfamiliar, I’m telling you this, “end it now” or you’ll wake up one morning in another twenty years wondering where the time went and you’ll just find yourself in the same exact spot with all the “WHAT IFs?” in mind…
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ADDICTION METHODS AND SUPPORT for loved ones๐Ÿ•Š

ADDICTION METHODS AND SUPPORT

10 Things to Stop Doing If You Love an Alcoholic

Are you wondering how you can cope with a drunk mother during the holidays, or how you can help her? Have friends told you that you are an enabler for your spouse? Do you find yourself suffering the consequences of a loved one’s alcohol problem? It can be hard to hear that you need to change yourself when a loved one is living with alcoholism. After all, it’s their problem, isn’t it? Unfortunately, you can only change yourself, and the only way you can interrupt and change the current course of your interactions with people with substance abuse disorders is to change your reactions.

Those who live or have lived with active alcoholics or anyone struggling with addiction find that they have been deeply affected by the experience. Many times, the frustration and stress can be caused by your own actions and choices. By adjusting your approach and your attitude toward the problem, you can place it in a different perspective so that it no longer dominates your thoughts and your life. In some ways, knowing that you can change your approach and attitude is empowering. You no longer need to continue doing some of the things you do in your dance with a person with an addiction.

Here are 10 things that you can stop doing that may help relieve the pressure.

1
Blaming Yourself

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It’s typical for alcoholics to try to blame their drinking on circumstances or others around them, including those who are closest to them. It’s common to hear an alcoholic say, “The only reason I drink is because you…”

Don’t buy into it. If your loved one is truly an alcoholic, he is going to drink no matter what you do or say. It’s not your fault. He has become dependent on alcohol, and nothing is going to get between him and his drug of choice.

2
Taking It Personally
When alcoholics promise they will never drink again, but a short time later they are back to drinking as much as always, it is easy for family members to take the broken promises and lies personally. You may tend to think, “If she really loves me, she wouldn’t lie to me.” But if she has become truly addicted to alcohol, her brain chemistry may have changed to the point that she is completely surprised by some of the choices she makes. She may not be in control of her own decision making.

3
Trying to Control It
Many family members of alcoholics naturally try everything they can think of to get their loved one to stop drinking. Unfortunately, this usually results in leaving the alcoholic’s family members feeling lonely and frustrated. You may tell yourself that surely there is something that you can do, but the reality is that not even alcoholics can control their drinking, try as they may.

Even knowing that you may still want to help your addicted loved one when he is in the middle of a crisis. In reality, that is usually the time when the family should do nothing.
When an alcoholic or drug abuser reaches a crisis point, sometimes that’s the time the person finally admits he has a problem and begins to reach out for help. But if friends or family members rush in and “rescue” the person from the crisis situation, it can delay the decision to get help.
Let a Crisis Happen
For those who love an addict, it is very difficult to sit back a let the crisis play out to its fullest extent. When addicts reach the point in their substance abuse when they get a DUI, lose their job, or get thrown in jail, it is a difficult concept for their loved ones to accept that the best thing they can do in the situation is to do nothing. It seems to go against everything they believe. Unfortunately, this causes the cycle to repeat…indefinitely.

You don’t have to create a crisis, but learning detachment will help you allow a crisisโ€”one that may be the only way to create changeโ€”happen.

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Trying to Cure It
Make no mistake about it, alcoholism, or alcohol dependence, is a primary, chronic, and progressive disease that sometimes can be fatal. You are not a healthcare professional, and even if you are, you should not carry the responsibility for treating friends or family members. You are not a trained substance-abuse counselor, and again, even if you are, your role should not be a counselor. You just happen to love someone who is probably going to need professional treatment to get healthy again. That’s the alcoholic’s responsibility, not yours. You can’t cure a disease. No matter what your background happens to be, you need outside help.

Alcoholics usually go through a few stages before they are ready to make a change. Until an alcoholic begins to contemplate quitting, any actions you take to “help” her quit will often be met with resistance.

Even though it is not your responsibility to “cure” your loved one’s alcoholism, you may be interested in knowing some of the things that make drinkers want to stop, as well as some of the things which get in the way of an alcoholic getting sober. You may wish to consider a family intervention. Before looking into ways of staging an intervention, take a moment to read further about how to care for yourselfโ€”not only for yourself but because it’s often the only way a person with an addiction will get the help they need.

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Covering It Up
There is a joke in recovery circles about an alcoholic in denial who screams, “I don’t have a problem, so don’t tell anyone!” Alcoholics typically do not want anyone to know the level of their alcohol consumption because if someone found out the full extent of the problem, they might try to help. If family members try to “help” (enable the alcoholic) by covering up for their drinking and making excuses for her, they are playing right into the alcoholic’s denial game. Dealing with the problem openly and honestly is the best approach.

Accepting Unacceptable Behavior
Accepting unacceptable behavior usually begins with some small incident that family members brush off with, “They just had too much to drink.” But the next time, the behavior may get a little worse and then even worse. You slowly begin to accept more and more unacceptable behavior. Before you realize it, you can find yourself in a full-blown abusive relationship. Abuse is never acceptable. You do not have to accept unacceptable behavior in your life. You do have choices.

It’s important to protect your children from unacceptable behavior as well. Do not tolerate any hurtful or negative comments addressed towards your children. These comments can result in lasting damage to a child’s psyche. Protect your children, and don’t hesitate to keep your child away from someone who drinks and does not respect your boundaries. Growing up in an alcoholic home can leave lasting scars.

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Having Unreasonable Expectations
One problem of dealing with an alcoholic is that what might seem like a reasonable expectation in some circumstances, might be totally unreasonable with an addict. When alcoholics swear to you and to themselves that they will never touch another drop, you might naturally expect that they are sincere and they won’t drink again. But with alcoholics, that expectation turns out to be unreasonable. Is it reasonable to expect someone to be honest with you when the person is incapable of even being honest with himself or herself?

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Living in the Past
The key to dealing with alcoholism in the family is staying focused on the situation as it exists today. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. It doesn’t reach a certain level and remain there for very long; it continues to get worse until the alcoholic seeks help. You can’t allow the disappointments and mistakes of the past to affect your choices today because circumstances have probably changed.

9
Enabling
Often, well-meaning loved ones, in trying to “help,” will actually do something that enables alcoholics to continue along their destructive paths. Find out what enabling is and make sure that you are not doing anything that bolsters the alcoholic’s denial or prevents them from facing the natural consequences of their actions. Many an alcoholic has finally reached out for help when they realized their enabling system was no longer in place. Take a moment to take this quiz to see if you are enabling an alcoholic.

What happens when you enable an alcoholic? The exact answer depends on the specific situation, but what usually happens is that:

The alcoholic never feels the pain
It takes the focus off of the alcoholic’s behavior

For example, if your loved one passes out in the yard, and you carefully help him into the house and into bed, only you feel the pain. The focus then becomes what you didโ€”moved himโ€”rather than what he did, which is passing out. If in this situation, he wakes up on the lawn in the morning with neighbors peeking out the window, and comes into the house while you and the children are happily eating breakfast, he is left to face the pain. The only thing left for him to face is his own behavior. In other words, his behavior, rather than your reaction to his behavior, becomes the focus. It is only when he experiences his own pain that he will feel a need to change.

Natural consequences may mean that you refuse to spend any time with the alcoholic. This is not being mean or unkind to the alcoholic, but instead is being protective of yourself. It is not your job to “cure” your loved one’s alcoholism, but allowing natural consequences to occur is one factor which can push a person from the pre-contemplative stage to contemplative stage of overcoming addiction. The contemplative stage ends with the decision to make a change, yet further steps such as preparation, action, and later maintenance and likely relapse are usually needed before the addiction is controlled.

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Putting off Getting Help
After years of covering up for the alcoholic and not talking about “the problem” outside the family, it may seem daunting to reach out for help from a support group, such as Al-Anon Family Groups. But millions have found solutions that lead to serenity inside those meetings. Going to an Al-Anon meeting is one of those things that once you do it, you say, “I should have done this years ago.”

Healing yourself involves being able to say several things including:

You no longer have to deny the presence of addiction in your family.
You no longer have to control the addict’s using.
You no longer have to rescue the addict.
You no longer have to be interested in the addict’s reasons for using.
You no longer have to accept or extract promises.
You no longer have to seek advice from the ill-informed.

You no longer have to nag, preach, coax, or gesture.
You no longer need to allow the addict to abuse you or your children.
You no longer have to be a victim of addiction.

Look After Yourself
There may be very little you can do to help the alcoholic until he or she is ready to get help, but you can stop letting someone’s drinking problem dominate your thoughts and your life. It’s okay to make choices that are good for your own physical and mental health.

Alcoholism as stated in the Dictionary. Clinical only.

Alcoholism

Alcoholism, also known as alcohol use disorder (AUD), is a broad term for any drinking of alcohol that results in mental or physical health problems.[12] The disorder was previously divided into two types: alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence.[1][13] In a medical context, alcoholism is said to exist when two or more of the following conditions are present: a person drinks large amounts over a long time period, has difficulty cutting down, acquiring and drinking alcohol takes up a great deal of time, alcohol is strongly desired, usage results in not fulfilling responsibilities, usage results in social problems, usage results in health problems, usage results in risky situations, withdrawal occurs when stopping, and alcohol tolerance has occurred with use.[1] Risky situations include drinking and driving or having unsafe sex, among other things.[1] Alcohol use can affect all parts of the body, but it particularly affects the brain, heart, liver, pancreas and immune system.[3][4] This can result in mental illness, Wernickeโ€“Korsakoff syndrome, irregular heartbeat, liver cirrhosis and increased cancer risk, among other diseases.[3][4] Drinking during pregnancy can cause damage to the baby resulting in fetal alcohol spectrum disorders.[2] Women are generally more sensitive than men to the harmful physical and mental effects of alcohol.[9]

Symptoms
Drinks large amounts over a long period, difficulty cutting down, acquiring and drinking alcohol takes up a lot of time, usage results in problems, withdrawal occurs when stopping, alcohol tolerance has occurred

What is alcoholism?

Alcohol is used more than any other addictive drug in Australia. If you suspect that you drink too much, or someone you live with might have a problem, then it might be helpful to know the warning signs and where to find help.

What is alcoholism?
If you drink a lot of alcohol, you might become dependent on it to make you feel good. Your drinking behaviour could tip over into alcoholism, a type of substance abuse.

The signs of alcoholism
You or someone you know might be drinking too much if they:

have a strong urge to drink
cannot control how much they drink
feel physical effects like nausea, sweating, shakiness and anxiety if they stop after a period of heavy drinking
I need to drink more overtime to get the same good feeling
drink while alone, or hide alcohol from members of the household
struggle with work, education or relationships for no obvious reason
lie about how much they drink
drink early in the day or are anxious about when they will be able to drink
forget what they said or did while they were drinking

Effects of alcoholism
If you drink too much alcohol, you are at increased risk of illnesses such as heart disease and liver disease, cancer, diabetes and damage to the brain. It can also have a bad effect on those around you as it is a key player in car accidents, family violence and crime.

Although it seems to make you feel good, alcohol can increase the risk of depression and anxiety and also can make these worse if they are already present.

If you are a family member or friend living with an alcoholic you are likely to feel upset, angry, anxious, guilty, stressed, disappointed and helpless at various times.

Treatment for alcoholism
The most important starting point for treatment is to talk to your doctor about how to control your alcohol consumption. You can search for a doctor in your region here.

Treatment options depend on the strength of alcohol dependence. For low-level dependence, your doctor might discuss the problem with you and suggest changes you can make or recommend counselling.

Stronger dependence will need different treatments to manage the effects of alcohol withdrawal. The treatments might include:

behavioural treatment to improve coping skills
medication
peer support through groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Smart Recovery
spending time at a detoxification facility
Preventing alcoholism and harm
Becoming familiar with the Australian guidelines for low-risk drinking habits can help guard against alcoholism. If you have children, you should talk to them about drugs, alcohol and mental health, including binge drinking.

What Are the 5 Alcoholic Subtypes?

The alcoholics subtypes include:

young adult alcoholic
young antisocial alcoholic
functional alcoholic
intermediate familial alcoholic
chronic severe alcoholic
Over 6 percent of American adults battled an alcohol use disorder (AUD) in 2015, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) publishes. Less than 10 percent of adults in the United States who struggled with alcoholism in 2015 received professional treatment for the disease, NIAAA further reports. There are many possible reasons for this treatment gap.

One such issue is that of a perceived need for professional help and recognition that a problem with alcohol exists. In 2013, the National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH) reported that of those who needed treatment and didn’t receive it, approximately 95.5 percent didn’t feel they needed it. This idea may be perpetuated if a person doesn’t fit into the role of the stereotypical “alcoholic.” When a person is educated, has a stable home life, holds down a job, and has no family history of alcoholism, it may be difficult for them to accept that their drinking is problematic. The alcoholic label may not seem to fit. Families may be more willing to overlook excessive drinking and issues related to alcohol abuse if their loved one appears to be functional in other areas or does not fit into the commonly perceived idea of what an alcoholic should look like.
Researchers at NIAAA, part of the National Institutes of Health (NIH), have identified five different subtypes of alcoholics to help people gain a better understanding of the disease.

The Five Types Include:
Young adult subtype
Young antisocial subtype
Functional subtype
Intermediate familial subtype
Chronic severe subtype

By gaining a better understanding of the different types of alcoholics, a person can better learn how alcoholism may affect them personally, helping them to then locate a relevant treatment program and learn how to manage their alcoholism into recovery.
Young Adult Alcoholics
The largest percentage of alcoholics fall into this group, as NIAAA publishes that 31.5 percent of all alcoholics in the United States fit this subtype. This group is typically in their late teens or early 20s, and either just of legal drinking age or slightly younger. Many young adult alcoholics are likely college students who are away from home for the first time, and who are surrounded by a culture that promotes and encourages excessive social drinking.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that underage drinkers between the ages of 12 and 20 regularly consume more alcohol at a time than older drinkers, and 90 percent of the alcohol consumed by this group is through binge drinking.
Binge drinking is a pattern of drinking, often perpetuated by underage and young adult drinkers, where they bring their blood alcohol concentration (BAC) up to or above 0.08 g/dL, which often occurs in the span of two hours when a man has five drinks or a woman has four, NIAAA explains.

NIAAA reports on a national survey that found that 60 percent of college students between the ages of 18 and 22 drank alcohol in the past month, and nearly two out of every three of these students binge drank during that month. Binge drinking is a pattern of excessive alcohol use that increases the risk for developing tolerance and then physical dependence on alcohol that can then lead to addiction. According to NIAAA, around 20 percent of college students struggle with alcohol addiction.

The young adult alcoholic may not seek help for their problematic drinking, as drinking to excess at this age is often considered “normal” and part of a phase of life. Family members and adults may assume that the young adult will then “grow out of it” and do not see the drinking as a potential ongoing or long-lasting issue.

People who fall into the young adult alcoholic subtype also rarely have a family history of alcoholism. Alcoholism is considered to be a heritable disease, as NIAAA reports that genetics can account for about half of the risk for developing the disease. The flip side of this coin, however, is that environmental and other factors make up the other half of the risks for the onset of addiction. Drinking to excess on a regular basis, living in a pro-drinking environment, peer pressure, drinking before the brain is fully formed in early adulthood, and abusing other drugs with alcohol can all contribute to the onset of alcoholism, just as biology and genetics can.

Nearly one-third of all alcoholics fit into the young adult alcoholic subtype.

Young Antisocial Alcoholics
This subtype of alcoholics is generally in their mid-20s and started drinking young. Early episodes of binge and heavy drinking (binge drinking on five or more days in the same month) can elevate the risk for struggling with alcohol-related issues later in life.

Alcohol impacts brain chemistry, and regular exposure to the mind-altering substance may actually change the way the brain’s circuitry works. An individual may then suffer from cravings and withdrawal symptoms when alcohol isn’t active in the bloodstream, encouraging the person to drink more to feel better.

Young brains do not have a fully developed prefrontal cortex, meaning that young people may have more difficulties controlling emotions and impulses, and are therefore more likely to take bigger risks without fear of consequences. Excessive drinking can be a particularly risky behavior, especially when undertaken by young people, as it may interfere with normal brain growth and development, and make the person more likely to struggle with substance abuse and addiction later in life, the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) warns. The CDC reports that consuming alcohol prior to age 15 increases the odds that a person will suffer from alcohol abuse or addiction later in life, up to six times more than a person who waits to drink until they are of the legal drinking age of 21.

More than half of young antisocial alcoholics have a family history of alcoholism, and around half also struggle with antisocial personality disorder. When a person suffers from a co-occurring mental health disorder, the risk for also developing alcoholism or problems with substance abuse are elevated. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) publishes that co-occurring mental health disorders and addiction are common, as about 8 million adults in America battled both in 2014.

Antisocial personality disorder commonly co-occurs with alcohol abuse, as alcohol can lower social inhibitions and anxiety, and make a person feel more relaxed. Drinking may then be used as a method of self-medicating the personality disorder symptoms. People who suffer from antisocial personality disorder also typically struggle with poor impulse control, which may then make them more vulnerable to participate in risky and problematic drinking, and other self-destructive behaviors.

Many people who fall into the young antisocial alcoholic subtype suffer from other mental health disorders as well, such as bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, or depression. As many as three-fourths of this subset also smoke marijuana and/or cigarettes, and many also struggle with opioid or cocaine addictions as well. Polydrug abuse, and co-occurring disorders combined with alcohol abuse, increases the risk for addiction and can interfere with treatment measures. Around one-third of young antisocial alcoholics will seek treatment for problematic drinking.

Functional Alcoholics
This subtype of alcoholics is typically middle-aged, well-educated, and may seem to have it all “together” on the outside. They are likely have a steady job, a seemingly stable family life, and do not often fit into the traditional stereotype of an alcoholic.

Around 19.5 percent of the alcoholic population in the United States falls into the functional alcoholic subtype. Someone who is considered a functional alcoholic may lead a kind of double life, compartmentalizing their drinking from the rest of their life. Unlike the typical alcoholic, a functional alcoholic will probably fulfill most of their regular obligations on a consistent basis, and family members may enable their drinking by making excuses for them when issues related to alcohol abuse do come up.

A functional alcoholic may not hit “rock bottom,” and they are often successful in relationships, employment, and life in general. Therefore, Psychology Today reports that they often deny they have a problem with alcohol and are less likely to seek professional help.

About half of this subtype of alcoholics smoke cigarettes, and one-third have a family history of alcoholism. Around one-quarter of the functional alcoholic demographic have had at least one major depressive episode in their lives as well. Depression and mood disorders commonly co-occur with alcohol abuse and can increase a person’s vulnerability to addiction. The functional alcoholic may be good at covering up emotional distress and issues with alcohol, and able to maintain outward appearances of success.

Intermediate Familial Alcoholics
Making up 19 percent of all American alcoholics, the intermediate familial alcoholic will typically be middle-aged and come from a family with multigenerational alcoholism about half of the time. Most intermediate familial alcoholics smoke cigarettes and close to one out of every five also struggles with marijuana and cocaine abuse. Abusing more than one substance at a time, such as alcohol and cocaine, increases all of the potential side effects and risk factors associated with each substance on its own, and also raises the risk that a person will then develop an addiction to one or both substances as well.

Nearly half of all intermediate familial alcoholics have struggled with clinical depression, and 20 percent have battled bipolar disorder. These disorders often co-occur with alcoholism. Alcohol may become a method of self-medicating the difficult emotional symptoms of depression and the mood swings associated with bipolar disorder. Essentially, alcohol changes brain chemistry and increases the presence of dopamine, which makes a person feel happy and relaxed.

Co-occurring disorders are optimally treated with an integrated program that can help to manage both disorders at the same time. Around one-quarter of intermediate familial alcoholics seek treatment for drinking-related problems.

Chronic Severe Alcoholics
Most likely what a person pictures when the term alcoholic is used, the chronic severe alcoholic subtype only accounts for about 9 percent of the entire US alcoholic population. A chronic severe alcoholic likely started drinking and struggling with alcohol-related issues and problematic drinking at a young age and is currently middle-aged. This subtype also battles antisocial personality disorder at high rates and regularly has issues with the law and therefore criminal or legal troubles as well.

Alcohol is often implicated in exacerbating aggression, and the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence (NCADD) publishes that 40 percent of all violent crimes cite alcohol as a contributing factor. Chronic severe alcoholics suffer from psychiatric disorders more often than other subtypes of alcoholics, including bipolar disorder, depression, and anxiety disorders.

Close to 80 percent of chronic severe alcoholics have a genetic and familial link to alcoholism, meaning that a close family member also suffered, or suffers, from alcoholism. Chronic severe alcoholics abuse other drugs at higher rates than the other subtypes of alcoholics as well.

Chronic severe alcoholics often smoke and may also suffer from cocaine, opioid, and/or marijuana dependence in addition to alcohol addiction. Chronic severe alcoholics often experience severe life problems related to their drinking, such as homelessness, loss of a job, dissolution of a relationship, legal problems, health issues, and other social, emotional, and behavioral concerns that may make them more likely to seek professional help. This subtype of alcoholics is the most likely to seek treatment and the most heavily represented type of alcoholic in a treatment program. About two-thirds of chronic severe alcoholics get help for their drinking.

Determining Your Alcoholic Type
Alcohol is the most common addictive substance abused in America today. NCADD reports than one out of every 12 adults struggles with alcohol abuse, dependence, or addiction. NIDA publishes the 11 signs of addiction that the Diagnostic and Statistical Manuel of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) lists as being indicators of the disease. These include:

Difficulties stopping drinking once you start and trouble controlling how often you drink
Making multiple attempts to stop drinking and being unsuccessful despite wanting to stop
Experiencing cravings for alcohol
Spending a lot of time getting alcohol, consuming it, and recovering from its aftermath
Continuing to drink even though it damages relationships and social interactions
Drinking interfering with fulfilling regular life obligations
Giving up activities and recreational events for alcohol
Drinking alcohol in situations where it is physically dangerous or risky to do so
Continuing to drink even when you know that it will cause physical, emotional, social, or other issues
Tolerance to alcohol as indicated by the need to drink more to feel โ€œnormalโ€
Withdrawal symptoms when alcohol wears off and in between episodes of drinking
The presence of any two symptoms within a one-year period can result in a diagnosis of alcohol addiction. As previously mentioned, however, there are multiple types of alcoholic subtypes. The following checklists for each type can help you determine which subtype you might fall into.

Young adult alcoholic

You are probably close to the legal drinking age of 21.
You might be a college student.
You most likely do not suffer from co-occurring disorders.
You probably do not have a family history of alcoholism.
You may not see drinking as problematic or seek help for drinking.
Young antisocial alcoholic

You are in your mid-20s.
You started drinking and experiencing alcohol-related issues at a young age.
You may have a close family member who struggles with alcoholism.

You are likely to also suffer from antisocial personality disorder.
You may struggle with depression, an anxiety disorder, or bipolar disorder.
You probably smoke cigarettes and/or marijuana.
You may also battle cocaine and/or opiate dependence.
Functional alcoholic

You are middle-aged and likely well-educated, gainfully employed, and successful.
You probably have a family and few issues maintaining relationships.
You may suffer from denial that your drinking is problematic as you are able to compartmentalize your drinking life.
Family members and/or spouses may make excuses for your drinking since you are able to consistently be a provider and fulfill your regular obligations.
When you do drink, however, you may be unable to stop and commonly drink more than you meant to in a sitting. You probably struggle with cravings for alcohol.
You may make many excuses to drink and/or replace meals with alcohol.
You may suffer from blackouts and drink to excess socially on a regular basis.
You are likely to have suffered from an episode of major depression at some point in your life.
You may smoke cigarettes.
Intermediate familial alcoholic

You are middle-aged.
You are likely to have a close family member who struggles with alcoholism.
You may also struggle with clinical depression and possibly with bipolar disorder.
You probably smoke cigarettes.
You also are highly likely to abuse cocaine and/or marijuana as well.
Chronic severe alcoholic

You are middle-aged, and started drinking and engaging in problematic drinking habits early in life.
You come from a home where a close family member probably struggled with alcoholism.
You have a hard time keeping a job, a house, or a relationship.

You are likely to have legal issues and may engage in criminal behaviors.
You probably also struggle with antisocial personality disorder and other psychiatric disorders, such as an anxiety disorder, depression, or bipolar disorder.
You probably also smoke cigarettes and marijuana, and may battle cocaine and opioid dependence.
You are likely to seek help for your drinking and may have already been through a treatment program.
By having a better understanding of what type of alcoholic you may be, it can be easier to recognize that you would benefit from an alcohol addiction treatment program. Treatment providers can help you to determine what form of treatment will be optimal for your specific needs and circumstances. Alcoholism is a manageable disease; treatment is necessary to manage it.

* – Sometimes you just need a good-olโ€™ fashioned mud bath!๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜…

โ€œEQUANIMITY!โ€ a poem. a.k.a.: โ€œWhen L Declares Love For O, But Despises V And E, O May Soon Be Despised As Well, Heaven Forbid!โ€ June 26, 2018 Tuesday Two-fers.

Try to learn this lesson; try to learn it well:

Try to learn the lesson, so your life will not be Hell!

THIS-HEREโ€™S,

โ€œTHE DECEPTIONโ€ (which is):

{YOU-CAN-GET-โ€THE-GOODโ€-WITHOUT-โ€THE-BAD!โ€}

Havenโ€™t we progressed enough,

To-learn-(ITโ€™S)-NOT-SO!?

How sad!

For-IF-you-all yearn for X plus,

X-minus will be there!

It is the nature of The Beast; have I not laid it bare?

The moment you judge one thing, it opens up the door,

Materializing THE OTHER – Why are we at war?

Because we like to opt for PEACE! Canโ€™t we let That go?

For IF YOU GRASP TRANQUILITY, CONFLICT YOU WILL KNOW!

BLESSED EQUANIMITY – LEAVES EVERYTHING ALONE,

Accepting simply WHAT IT IS – is – ROMANCING OF THE STONE!

Which means, ACCEPT OR LOVE EACH THING,

It may NOT reciprocate,

But, thatโ€™s just fine, My Valentine – so letโ€™s relax our fate:

Please, My Dearest, travel lightly and donโ€™t get too embroiled,

With wanting things you think are pure:

YOUโ€™RE-also-PERFECT-WHEN-YOUโ€™RE-โ€SOILED!โ€ * ๐Ÿ™‚

fin. <3

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