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“Josh Groban – You Are Loved (Don’t Give Up)”~ BROKEN Soul ©

Don’t Give up

Have you ever wondered why folk give up!

Watch the warning signs
Someone inside perhaps retreats within themselves
Silence is seen as escapism when in fact what happens inside a living being is our message from our gut really is the bodies way of reacting to lack of water, nourishment, surviving drought or famine inside all living matter fighting for survival. The role then is sent to the brainwaves simply GIVE UP.


Or maybe a sensitive Soul is mentally tired.

Mental illness has naught to do with giving up is a dangerous precursor to SUICIDE.

Animals, Humans, plants give up too. Why?

This Earth is Fragile we to are fragile

Every living being has this point called Fragility

We never know, what lays behind those eyes until the day we turn around to find another life LOST

Fragile– life is everyone’s responsibility.

Promises made at the moment, that are forfeited by the way perhaps unintended Promise’s never kept could destroy a life
Scared, disappointed, anger, loss of dignity, loss of trust, loss of love, all are a precursor to an already FRAGILE Soul.

Thought for the day
“When you make a promise — that is your word”
You are only respected by your “Word”of promise you have made.
Another Gentleman may say you are as good as your Word!


Here at Dazzle the team intends to look at Broken Soul –
SUICIDE — a subject we will all deal with around our lives with family, friends also with strangers who are FRAGILE.

This Category Blogging is not Medical advice or makes any claims pertaining to information in this chapter of Dazzled.
You are invited to participate in this Category by sending your thoughts by email to the Central Office for consideration to publish here. Thank you and blessings 🕯



Former primary school teacher Frank Viola Could serve as little as 7 months for possession of child exploitation material with kids as young as 9 !

A former teacher who was “sexually attracted” to pre-pubescent girls, has been convicted of possession of hundreds of images and videos of child exploitation material featuring children as young as 9 years old and all categories from simple posing of children to full blown hardcore.

He was sentenced to a maximum of just 15 months behind bars, the least he can serve is half of that which is as little as just over 7 months ! What a slap on the face to every single one of the children featured in his horrendous collection.

If it’s not shocking enough to hear that a primary school teacher was sexually attracted to the very children he was meant to be teaching, meant to be nurturing and protecting but instead he was fantasising about those children. He fantasised so much he would then go home and search the dark web for images and videos of children the very same age !

Frank Joseph Viola was charged in August last year after police seized a USB and computer from his home and discovered the collection. Viola, who was sentenced in the District Court last Friday after pleading guilty to possessing child exploitation material, told police in an interview that he was sexually interested in girls aged 10 to 12.

The 60-year-old resigned as a teacher in 2010 after 28 years, citing a “burnout”, and he told police he had been downloading child porn from the internet since 2005 – while he was still working in classrooms.

Judge Amanda Burrows said the category four images – which showed girls aged as young as nine performing oral sex on adults – as “very serious images indeed”. “I consider this to be a significant collection of child exploitation material,” she said. “You admitted you had a sexual interest in young girls. I find the interest you had was considerable and long-standing.”

She said she was sceptical about Viola’s claims the sexual gratification he had received from looking at the material had diminished over the years because of “health issues”.

There was evidence, Judge Burrows said, that he had accessed the material the night before police raided his house. So in other words he would never have stopped accessing and collecting this sick perversion unless he was made to stop.

Viola told the author of a pre-sentence report that he had not sought help for his paedophilic interest because he was “embarrassed and was scared of the repercussions”. Defence lawyer Rod Keeley said Viola was remorseful and had pleaded guilty to the charge at the first opportunity – which Judge Burrows said she took into account in sentencing.

However, Judge Burrows did not agree Viola should be handed a suspended sentence, finding his crime was too serious. “People like you, downloading this material, create a market for its creation,” she said.

Exactly Judge Burrows !

Those who download child exploitation images and videos directly contribute to the rape and exploitation of children !

How you may ask ? but they’re on the otherside of the world you might say.

FACT: Every single one of the children depicted in those videos and pictures is a REAL child who is being REALLY raped and abused !

FACT: As much child exploitation material is made in Australian and American homes as in foreign nations. Our children are being exploited just as badly as the foreign children.

FACT: By downloading child exploitation material you ARE contributing to the entire child exploitation industry.

Frank Viola should have the entire book thrown at him, 7 and a half months feels a little cheap considering he was a teacher who was literally in charge of children the same age as the ones he was scouring the dark web to find and collect images and videos of.

Child exploitation material features REAL children who are REALLY being RAPED and ABUSED ! They spend the rest of their days looking at every person who stares at them wondering “has this person seen the movies ? is this one of the sick perverts who has seen me being abused ?” Imagine that life.

That’s the life that child exploitation material viewers DOOM children to ! A life always wondering “Is this one of the sick perverts who got off on my abuse ?”

Child exploitation material needs a MUCH harsher sentence ! 7 months is a sad pathetic joke just like most of our legal system !

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Colin Randall, former QLD Police Officer who beat his 10 week old son to death, has had his appeal for early release DENIED !

Colin Randall, former QLD Police Officer who beat his 10 week old son to death, has had his appeal for early release DENIED !

The story of Colin Randall and how he punched his 10 week old baby boy Kye, in the stomach so hard he pulverised the little boy’s liver, is a story that is downright horrific.

Horrific because the only explanation he gave was that he was “frustrated.”

Horrific because he punched his son in the stomach with such force it caused fatal injuries.

Horrific, because it was the first time he was left alone with Kye.

Horrific because he tried to blame the CPR for Kye’s death, claiming ‘misapplied force’ caused his death.

Horrific because he lied for 18 months to Kye’s mother Debra Chambers, manipulating and deceiving her into believing Kye’s death was a tragic accident.

Horrific because someone capable of losing control and behaving so abominably, managed to pass the psychological testing invoved in becoming a police officer, someone charged with protecting those unable to protect themselves.

Horrific because he pleaded guilty to manslaughter… not the murder charge he deserved.

Horrific because the 9 year sentence he received is a joke and a parole date of 2021 is not justice for Kye and his loved ones.

He was sent to jail last year for punching his baby son so hard the 10-week-old’s liver was “pulped”, but former Queensland police officer Colin Randall could be free soon. The brutal act came the first time the senior constable was left alone with his son Kye in June 2014. The then 37-year-old Randall had become obsessed with moving to Hervey Bay but a recent transfer request was knocked back by police.

He wanted to move to Hervey bay to be closer to the woman that he was having an affair with. The fact he couldn’t be closer to his girlfriend made him so frustrated he punched a completely innocent and vulnerable 10 week old baby boy.

On the morning he killed his son, Randall’s wife Debra Chambers had gone to the shops with their first child. Randall stayed at home and put Kye in a swing. The court heard Randall leaned down and punched Kyle once, leaving him with severe internal injuries from which he never recovered.

“The child went into cardiac arrest because of the trauma,” Crown prosecutor Phil McCarthy said.

Randall was sentenced to nine years in prison last May after pleading guilty to the lesser charge of manslaughter three days before his murder trial was due to start. The fact is the courts have difficulty proving murder in domestic situations, because they must prove the murderer intended to kill the victim.

We at FACAA have to question how in this particular case there can be any question at all of Randall’s intentions.
There could be no other likely outcome. What the hell did he think was going to happen when he balled up his fist and drove it into the stomach of his 10 week old baby boy?

Anyone capable of becoming a police officer would realise that punching a 10 week old baby would do irrepairable damage and more than likely be a fatal blow.

Seriously, a child would know this!

Yet here we are, with another child killer who pleaded down to manslaughter rather than facing the charges they deserve …. that of child murder.

“The courts are saying they can’t prove he intended to kill Kye, but in my eyes, if you are going to punch a two-and-a-half-month-old in the stomach really hard, you are going to kill them,” Ms Chambers told A Current Affair.
“He is very manipulative and very evil. I mean, it takes an evil person to do what he did.” – Well said Ms Chambers !

While sentencing Randall in Brisbane’s Supreme Court, Justice Peter Davis delivered a scathing assessment of the 41-year-old, saying he had breached his duty to care for his son in the “most horrible and vile way”.

Randall maintained for three-and-a-half years the injuries were caused by CPR he had incorrectly performed, despite being familiar with the technique. “It beggars belief in circumstances where he was a trained instructor (in CPR),” Mr McCarthy said.

Yeah sorry Randall, you loser, it was you punching your son Kye that killed him, not bad CPR !

Recently Randall appealed the length of his sentence, wanting to be free before his already incredibly lenient parole date in 2021. He tried to claim that the judge did not put enough weight on his guilty plea.

A guilty plea that he only gave at the very last possible moment to do so, because he knew his not guilty plea would not fly and he would be found guilty of murdering his son. So he got the advantage of an early guilty plea and a charge reduction to manslaughter…. not the murder charge he should have been facing.

Thankfully the board of judges that heard his appeal saw straight through his lies and denied his appeal for early release.

Well done to the judges who dismissed his appeal, they have shown that sometimes there is just a little bit of justice in our legal system and that sometimes the judges get it right.

Colin Randall should be locked up for the rest of his days, his pathetic temper tantrum cost little Kye his life !

A life that had unlimited potential, a life taken away because Colin Randall was frustrated that he didn’t get the transfer he wanted.

It’s time our legal system spoke loudly to these murderers who take the lives of innocent babies like Kye and toddlers like Hemi and then claim it was an accident.
Beating a baby is not an accident and they deserve to face the full force of the law, the charge is murder not manslaughter and sentence should be life !

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Have you ever been approached by a homosexual? How did you respond to it? Or not🤔

Have you ever been approached by a homosexual? How did you respond to it?

Yes, I have.

When I was about 19 I decided to hitchhike to Georgia from Tennessee. I was having a hard time getting a ride I guess because I was a guy. Anyway I finally got me a ride somewhere in Tennessee. The guy I got ride from was a truck driver. I was totally oblivious to homosexuals, I was scared of them because all I ever heard was stories. I have never even seen one before this incident. Anyway, I remember it clears as day. We were driving down the road, and he said he was hungry and needed some protein. I said pull over and get something to eat I wouldn’t mind but that is not what he meant. He told me that he needed to give me oral sex, so he could stay awake. That scared the heck out of me and I told him to pull over and let me out. I guess he must have thought I was gonna go to the police because he started begging and pleading that I let him carry me to Atlanta, and he would not say or do anything out of the way. Well, I agreed because I had a long way to go, and he kept his word. What really blew my mind was that he was a truck driver. I always thought that truck drivers were tough.

When Jane was 15 she was repeatedly sexually assaulted by her math teacher Nicolaas Bester, now he is playing the victim and she can’t speak in her own defence

When Jane was 15 she was repeatedly sexually assaulted by her math teacher Nicolaas Bester, now he is playing the victim and she can’t speak in her own defence #LetHerSpeak

Former private school teacher and convicted sex offender Bester, who groomed, molested and repeatedly sexually assaulted his student, has arrogantly claimed he is the real victim.

In 2011, Nicolaas Ockert Bester, was sentenced to two years and four months in jail for maintaining a sexual relationship with his 15-year-old maths student at Hobart’s prestigious St Michael’s Collegiate.

**Maintaining a sexual relationship, interesting terminology, isn’t it…. on this page, that is called rape… children cannot give consent, therefore no consent=rape.

In 2015, after being released from prison, Bester, the then 58-year-old, reoffended by making child exploitation material for which he was sentenced to an additional four months in jail. That same year, he wrote comments on social media about his “sexual relationship” with the teenage student, describing it as “awesome” and “enviable” — for another four months in jail.

But despite all this, Bester has arrogantly claimed he is the real victim, and the worst part is he is getting support. Sex therapist Bettina Arndt interviewed him for her website and let him prattle on about how hard done by he is ! She even asked him what HE had been through! She literally gave HIM, a convicted child sex offender, a voice and in the introduction to the video referred to Bester as a “so called child abuser” THERE’S NOTHING “SO CALLED” ABOUT IT BETTINA, HE WAS TRIED AND CONVICTED…. HE IS A CHILD SEX OFFENDER, DEFINITELY A CHILD ABUSER… END OF STORY !

If his social media commentary and Bettina Arndt excusing his behaviour wasn’t bad enough, Jane Doe (in case you haven’t guessed, that isn’t her real name) isn’t even allowed to speak up and defend herself !

Because of an antiquated and outdated Tasmanian law that prevents survivors of sexual assault from being named, she cannot tell her story in any way, shape or form. He, her abuser… can, but she can’t, this is just incredibly wrong !

The outdated law which only exists in Tasmania and the Northern Territory won’t allow sexual assault survivors to be identified under their real name, even with their full consent….. you heard that correctly, even if they are now adults and wish to speak out… they cannot!
Who is really being protected by this law? Certainly not survivors who wish to tell their story.

Bester groomed Jane Doe, he was her teacher, 40+ years older than her, in a position where he held all of the power. She was a vulnerable teenage girl, troubled and suffering from anorexia.
He took advantage of her mentally, physically, emotionally and in a situation where he held all the power, he now claims he is the real victim.

Until now, Bester has been able to speak, knowing “Jane Doe” has no power or legal right to defend herself.

In Tasmania, Section 194K of the Evidence Act means that the identity of a sexual assault survivor can never be revealed, even with the sexual assault survivor’s full cooperation and consent. It’s a cruel and barbaric law that effectively silences courageous survivors and protects their perpetrators.

Bester sexually abused “Jane Doe” at school, in his office, in a hotel room and even in a church and now after being convicted and serving prison time, he is telling a very different version of the “truth” and thanks to people like Bettina Arndt, giving his ridiculous version creedence, where he is infact the victim, he is being heard. Last night 60 minutes aired this story and even when reporter Allison Langdon, confronted the now 65-year-old Bester, the first time he’s ever been challenged on his version of events, he made no apologies for his behaviour.

“The truth of it is, you isolated and groomed a vulnerable young girl,” Langdon said as she confronted him outside a hardware store in Tasmania.

“No. Nothing of the kind,” he adamantly responded.

“You locked her in a closet.”

“Nothing of the kind,” he repeated
“.. and forced her to undress,” Langdon interrupted

When Langdon said: “All you’ve done is portray yourself as the victim. What about the real victim, Nicholas? Any thoughts to her?”

Bester hit back saying, “There’s that word again, victim. We’ll see who’s the victim.”

You see… Bester is the perfect example of a child abuser, he is arrogant, a narcissist concerned only with HIS wants, HIS feelings, how things affects HIM. He is the victim here, he lost his job, his family, his life, he went to prison…of course the fact that he is to blame for those things happening to him is something he will never accept. He truly believes he is the victim and that is why we at FACAA say they can never be rehabilitated… because the fact is they see themselves as the victim, they truly believe the world has done them wrong by arresting them and calling them a child abuser. If you refuse to admit your crime how can you ever be rehabilitated especially when you are deluded enough to believe that sexually abusing, raping a child 40+ years younger than you, when you hold all the power, is the childs fault. Unbelievable!

To say they are rehabilitated or that they are the victim is simply an outright lie. Yet still here we are, with the only real victim in this story still having no voice, she cannot speak out without risking imprisonment, yet Bester can go and be interviewed by those who excuse and explain away his paedophillic ways, and he can cry foul of the whole world, claim it was he who was hard done by, there is no justice !

We have to commend 60 minutes for their work in this story, as well as Camilla Cleese, Alyssa Milano and Tara Moss for championing “Jane Doe’s” cause and to End Rape On Campus for starting the Hashtag #LetHerSpeak to raise awareness for changing the outdated and antiquated law in Tasmania and the Northern Territory.

To “Jane Doe” we say please never stop fighting and know all 117 thousand of the FACAA stand right behind you. You deserve to be able to defend yourself and to speak out about what was done to you… no one should be able to take your voice. Our voices are the best defence we, as survivors, have against predators.
Together, we will be heard

To Nicolaas Bester we say SHUT THE HELL UP ! YOU HAVE DONE ENOUGH DAMAGE. Bester you ARE a child abuser and you are NOT the victim and Bettina why on earth would you give a CONVICTED child abuser a voice? How do you sleep at night, both of you ?

If you would like to see this antiquated law changed, please sign and share the petition below and #LetHerSpeak-

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Narcissistic personality disorder this monster self gratification ejaculation. Next time this monster will say she wanted to be murdered.

Cornelus Bezuidenhout molested a 6 year old girl then told the court “she knew exactly what she was doing and wanted it” He will be deported after serving just 7 months !

This absolutely vile pervert tried to blame his 6 year old victim for him molesting her !

Once again a child abuser proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that they cannot be rehabilitated because they simply do not acknowledge that they have done anything wrong !

A pervert who sexually assaulted a kindergarten student claimed she ‘knew exactly what she was doing’ and ‘wanted it’. Cornelus Bezuidenhout, 75, who claimed to be a ‘good Christian’, made the vile comments to police last January after the girl pleaded with her parents to keep him away.

That’s not very Christian of you Cornelus, not only did you molest one of god’s chosen (the children) and forever traumatize the little innocent angel, but then instead of owning your mistake and asking forgiveness you tried to pass the buck to the 6 YEAR OLD GIRL !
I doubt very highly that Jesus would be behind you on this one !

The South African national – a father of five – who now lives in Melbourne, had been looking after the girl after befriending the parents of his niece’s friend. He had repeatedly molested the child after collecting her from kindergarten, taking her on trips to the park and playing dolls in a bedroom. On one occasion he touched the little girl while he shared a meal with her parents.

The brazen sex offender was caught after his terrified victim pleaded with her parents not to let him come around to their house. ‘He’s not as nice as he seems,’ she warned, telling her shocked parents Bezuidenhout had ‘touched her private parts’.

What an incredibly brave and articulate child, showing courage and wisdom beyond her years.

The child was forced to recount her ordeal to the court just days before Christmas last year, telling a judge her abuser had hurt her. The devout Baptist pleaded guilty to two charges of sexually assaulting a child aged under 16. He had initially denied abusing the girl, telling his wife of 26 years that nothing was wrong.

He continued his outrageous behaviour when questioned by police, telling them the little girl was trouble.

Bezuidenhout blamed his victim for her abuse, telling detectives ‘it was no accident’. ‘It was purely for her, as she wanted it,’ he said. ‘It was a game … she knew exactly what she was doing.’


Bezuidenhout said he abused the girl only to ‘please her’ and that he was a ‘good Christian’ who had been unable to maintain an erection for the past five years. What does that have to do with anything ? You don’t need an erection to be a child sex offender.

He actually had the gall to tell the police-
‘This little girl should know boundaries because she’ll get herself into trouble,’
Umm no Cornelus, it is YOU who should know boundaries and it is YOU who has gotten himself in trouble…. but it is nothing you don’t deserve !

He went on to muse that it was ‘unbelievable a five-year old seduces a 75-year old man’.
County Court of Victoria Judge Gabriele Cannon agreed. ‘The punishment must be just,’ she said.

Judge Cannon condemned Bezuidenhout for his ‘gross breach of trust’ and labelled his comments to police as ‘repugnant’.

‘You knew what you did was wrong … you blame the six-year old victim,’ she said. She sentenced the civil engineer to 22 months in jail, with a non-parole period of 10 months. With time served, Bezuidenhout will likely be deported back to South Africa in a little under seven months.

So Judge Cannon says “the punishment must be just” and then gives him what equates to 7 more months in prison ? Somehow that doesn’t sound very just to me.

Our judges comments suggest that they get the impact that child abuse has on our children, but then their actions speak much louder… when they hand them pathetically lenient sentences which equate to nothing more than a slap on the wrist. This gives the opposite message that our children’s lives are not valued by our society.

We simply must start punishing these vile creatures with much harsher sentences to send a loud and clear message that our children are valued by us and that if you hurt them, you are going to prison for a VERY long time !

One good piece of news is that He will return to South Africa alone after his wife filed for divorce. I guess he’ll blame the little girl for that too.

Cornelus Bezuidenhout you make me physically sick ! You should do everyone a favour when you get back to South Africa and go play with a Hippo ! How dare you try to blame an innocent little child for your sick perversions!

It never ceases to amaze me how arrogant and deluded these disgusting perverts are, blaming an innocent 6 year old for his heinous actions. Unbelievable!

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Adelaide schoolgirl stab accused ‘had target list’ –

Question by Reader

Mim Cerviney Marshall I know just shocking that children are doing this even thinking this way. Something terrible wrong with our younger generations 🤗


Pam Morrow I can’t fathom events that will lead these horrifying thoughts. Is it drug related? PROBABLY, is it the way these kids were educated? Look at the past. History shows maybe that families internally become dysfunctional. Divorce rate is out of control, families break down. Children are hurt beyound endurance of family upheaval. Extended families work for the best interest of the child. The blame rests with us. Child born to you and me is our responsibility until the day we die. Children are not disposable toys. They grow to have children of their own. Still you the Grandma who gave birth to this lineage is our responsibility. That’s life folk. If you don’t understand what giving birth will do to your life, keep you legs together lol. 😁

Repressed memories can’t be seen, but they can still do damage. CHILD ABUSE

Repressed memories can’t be seen, but they can still do damage.

Repressed memories are memories that have been unconsciously blocked, due to those memories being associated with a very high level of trauma or stress. Although the person repressing the memories cannot remember the events, they still have the power to impact them significantly.

The hypothesis of repressed memories is a controversial topic in the field of psychology and studies show differing results as to whether this can occur in survivors of trauma. Some psychologists believe that the memories can be recovered using processes such as hypnosis or other therapies, but there are others who state this is simply creating false memories.

So can a memory be forgotten and then remembered? And can someone be told that something happened and then remember that as true?

These questions lay at the heart of childhood trauma and abuse studies. Clinicians who work with survivors of trauma and memory researchers agree that both of the above can be true. It is an area that is very difficult to study directly, outside of a lab, as it would mean subjecting participants to some kind of trauma and then studying their memories of it. However, there are clinicians who agree that trauma experienced in childhood may lead to problems in memory storage and retrieval, and that dissociation is a likely explanation for a memory that was once forgotten and later recalled.

When an individual dissociates, the memory isn’t actually lost, but can be unavailable for retrieval for some time. Many believe that individuals dissociate in order to shelter themselves from the pain of reliving those memories. It is a difficult topic, as many researchers argue that there is very little empirical evidence to support these theories.

So instead I will share some of my experiences working in the field with survivors of unimaginable childhood abuse and trauma, as a mental health clinician. I’ve never done any research into repressed memories, but I have seen the dissociation symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder up close and personal with those I’ve worked with. When that individual stops mid-conversation, eyes suddenly glazed over, with a petrified look on their face because they are reliving a trauma with no apparent trigger for the memory.

These are individuals who for years, dealt with their pain through abusing their bodies with drugs and alcohol because the pain of what they had experienced was too much for them to bear. Some memories they could remember, and others only seemed to come out when they were in a dissociative state. I can’t quite put into words the sadness that gripped me when one young lady looked at me as though I was the abuser, because she was so “in” the memory that she was reliving it all over again. I’ve never seen pain and fear like that before or since, and that memory will stay with me personally for ever. Not long after I found myself having to hold onto in the back of a car so that she wouldn’t escape the car while my co-worker was driving.

I don’t have any of the answers, and it seems nor does anybody else. But the topic of memory, false memories, repressed memories, is an interesting one, as well as one that makes it a challenge to secure evidence in the eyes of the Court. I know I am sick of watching abusers walk the streets freely while their survivors live their lives with a life sentence, re-traumatised daily by their memories and dissociations, and tormented by the fear that other memories may be remembered later. (CE)

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Online trolls in NSW will now face being hit with AVO’s and could get up to 5 years behind bars.

Online trolls in NSW will now face being hit with AVO’s and could get up to 5 years behind bars.

NSW state parliament has written laws in line with Dolly’s law. For those unfamiliar with Amy ‘Dolly’ Everett’s story, she was the 14 year old Northern Territory girl who was cyber-bullied horrendously until sadly she took her own life. Her family have since fought hard to bring in Dolly’s law, a series of laws helping to end cyber bullying once and for all.

We at FACAA couldn’t applaud her family more, for their awareness raising campaign after Dolly’s death, to find the strength to rise up from such genuine tragedy and help to make such a lasting and real impact in their daughter’s name is nothing short of extraordinary.

Premier Gladys Berejiklian and Attorney General Mark Speakman have announced that under new amendments to the Crimes (Domestic and Personal Violence) Act, NSW Police will soon be able to slap online trolls with an apprehended violence order.

Police will also have the right to arrest offenders, who could face imprisonment of up to five years. Commonwealth laws currently enforce maximum sentences of just three years. The changes are designed to protect people from serious online abuse, ranging from serious cases of cyberbullying and trolling, through to the stalking and harassment of victims of domestic and personal violence.

The new legislation will be introduced into state parliament over the next few weeks. “The change we are announcing today recognises that online abuse can cause victims significant psychological trauma and have potentially devastating, even tragic consequences,” Ms Berejiklian said.

“These changes are not aimed at policing free speech. They are aimed at preventing abuse.”

Examples of abuse that these amendments aim to tackle include posting threatening or hurtful messages, images or videos online, repeatedly sending unwanted messages online, and sending abusive emails.

Mr Speakman said the reforms addressed an emerging trend of offenders threatening and harassing victims on social media.

“This activity can make its victims feel scared, powerless and depressed,” he said.

“The NSW Government is committed to protecting domestic violence victims and other members of the community from new threats that arise with advances in technology.”

We at FACAA have worked closely with the NSW state government and the attorney general Mark Speakman. While we do not endorse any particular political party we absolutely must applaud the efforts of Mr Speakman and his team to bring in laws that will prevent various forms of child abuse.

One law changed at a time and together, we will end child abuse, Rest in peace Dolly your name has been used to inspire laws that will help kids for generations.

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Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient !

It’s the little things in life that can mean so much………….We often hear people saying that those who have endured trauma need to just ‘get over it’ and often the people saying that actually mean well, they want to see us happy and moving forward so they think we need to just think of something else. If only it was that easy. Personally, just the date today has triggered some terrible memories and emotions and that got me thinking. Thinking about how each and every trauma survivor can feel like they are doing well, only to be side swiped by a smell, a song, a taste, a place, a date and so on.

What also struck me today though was the other ‘little things’ – the friends who reach out and listen – the ones who will sit quietly in your darkness with you and simply allow you to hurt while making sure you are not hurting alone and that you are safe.

Being a survivor doesn’t mean we are always strong or that we are ‘over it’ – it means we have lived through hell and made it out the other side, battered and forever changed but still able to smile, laugh, love, cry and breathe. It’s perfectly okay to have to lean on others sometimes, to admit that we need help and accept the support that friends, family and professional services can provide us with.

What we need to remember is that we have made it this far, we can keep going – even though sometimes it will all seem to be too much to take.

If you find yourself back in those dark depths, please tell someone and ask for help, it is a hard step to take I know but it is worth it. (GE)
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