“Let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet.
This is the hardest thing you’ll have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing.
Stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love or appreciate you yet.
Stop conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop showing up for and showing care for people who are indifferent to your presence, who display temperamental emotions, who show disrespect or block you out and keep you at bay, despite your best efforts.
I know your instincts attempt everything to win the good mercy of those around you, but it’s also this impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health.
When you start being yourself in your life—completely, with joy, interest and commitment—not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity.
That doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are; or play yourself down to suit the judgements projected onto you by those who do not care. It just means you have to stop bothering people who don’t want to love you yet.
The truth is that you’re not for everyone.
And that not everyone is for you.
The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy.
When you realize this, you start to understand why you become impatient with people who don’t suit you, and in activities, places, situations that don’t suit you.
You’re starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, is to protect your energy stronger than anything.
Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only people who are truly compatible with you are allowed.
It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after moment.
Decide you deserve only true and equitable friendship.
Then take a moment to notice how things are beginning to change.”