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BROKEN SOUL

Broken Soul ~ Carer Role ๐Ÿ•ฏ๏ธ

Relationships may become one-sided because people with anxiety and or depression are sometimes so focused on their own problems that they may have nothing left to give to a relationship.
Social relationships may also change. The response or lack of response you get from friends and family members may be surprising or hurtful. This may be because they donโ€™t understand anxiety or depression, what it means, or what you may be going through.
And it is important that you do have hope.
On the not-so-good days, when hope is missing, support people should remember that in most cases anxiety and depression are treatable or manageable.
Hope may be drawn from small achievements like when the person you support attends a doctorโ€™s appointment, gets out of bed or sees a friend. Even though these are small achievements, nevertheless, they are achievements.
You will learn to appreciate them in whatever form they come, the good days and the good moments, the hugs and the smiles โ€“ all of which happen day by day.
โ€œAt some point, it has got to be about you and about having a life for yourself some times.โ€
It may mean you need to plan and take breaks. Make time for exercise, relaxation, dinner with friends and time for your interests. Continue the activities you enjoy, maintain a life of your own and look after yourself. Itโ€™s important that youโ€™re not hard on yourself and that you give yourself a break.
Try to refocus your โ€˜self-talkโ€™ and make it more positive. Remind yourself that youโ€™re doing the very best you can and although you may not have all the answers, it doesnโ€™t mean youโ€™re doing the wrong thing by the person you support. Remember, you didnโ€™t make the person unwell or cause the personโ€™s mental health condition. You want what is best for the person, even on the days when you feel extremely frustrated. When the person is angry and resentful towards you, remember that when they can see more clearly, they will understand and appreciate you are there.
Often, supporters of people with a mental health condition say itโ€™s important to set boundaries. This may mean you need to protect yourself by not looking too far forward and take each day as it comes.

Broken Soul