Communicate With Confidence
1. Stable and clear voice tone.
You may need to practice, but speaking in a clear voice without whispers or stammering conveys self-assurance.
2. Making eye contact.
No staring at the floor or looking out the window. Confident eye contact isn’t a persistent stare, but it is a meeting of the eyes as you speak and make your point.
3. Listening to others.
Listening to others is a way of expanding your view of the world, bridging the differences between you and someone else and demonstrating that your belief in yourself is strong enough to take in other points-of-view.
4. No attacks or threats.
Self-confidence isn’t aggressive. A self-assured person can hear what someone is saying, respond to them and maintain their own point-of-view or make compromises to solve the real problems that are presented.
5. Speak from the heart.
Try connecting to your inner sense of well-being and your inner convictions when you talk to others and assert yourself. You might appear passionate, but passion can exude a sense of sureness.
6. Look for win-win solutions.
When you’re confident, you know that getting your own way doesn’t have to come at someone else’s expense. Approach a situation with the attitude that it is possible that both perspectives are valid and that two or more people can gain from an interaction.
7. Use humor.
When something is vital to us, it’s sometimes hard to discuss it in a light-hearted way. But humor can ease tension and shows you’re comfortable with yourself.
8. Express Gratitude.
Confidence is very different from arrogance. Someone who is confident is able to express gratitude to someone else. An added bonus is that expressing gratitude happens to be one of the most effective ways to strengthen relationships.
Apologize when in the wrong, but not for being alive or having legitimate human needs.
Acknowledge others, give and receive compliments, recognize other people’s difficulties. Sometimes the world is more powerful than us, and we don’t have the ability to change a situation. However, behaving with poise, refusing to sell out everything to get approval and liking and giving respect have the added benefit of making you feel more respected and more self-confident.