Start a Meetup group Meetup groups are not just a fantastic way of meeting new people, but they are a fantastic way of practicing social interaction in a comfortable environment. What I have found is that there are always new people coming to Meetups and that you will never be the only person that does not know anyone. This can help you to start to create your very own social circle that you can practice taking the lead in.
Starting your own Meetup group is another fantastic way of enabling you to truly show your uniqueness. You can design your group’s site, pick the locations and choose your target audience, allowing you to build social leadership in a way that is suited to your life.
Join Toastmasters Toastmasters is undoubtedly one of the best ways of building your confidence in front of people. For those that do not know, Toastmasters is a non-profit organisation helping individuals build communication and leadership skills. Essentially, you go through a variety of exercise, games and simulations that help you think on your feet, prepare key messages and speak in front of an audience.
Spend just 6 weeks with toastmasters and I’m sure you will feel a vast improvement in your social confidence and social leadership.
Develop and deliver a presentation on your topic of expertise What is it that you are an expert in? What do people come to you for when they need help? Develop and deliver a presentation on your topic of expertise and enhance your social confidence and social leadership. Giving a presentation not only enables you to practice your speaking and communication skills in front of an audience, but it helps you develop authority in the topic that you are choosing.
Have you noticed that after giving a presentation people seem more interested in talking to you? Getting up and presenting in front of an audience gives other’s an insight into who you are as a person, enabling them to feel more comfortable in approaching you. This enables you to easily develop your social confidence and social leadership amongst something that you have expertise in and in an environment where you feel more comfortable.
Do something silly and make it public! The world is simply one big playground! I absolutely love this one and it is something my friends and I do regularly. Never underestimate it’s power in enhancing your social confidence and social leadership.
Jump outside of your comfort zone and do something silly in public. Perhaps it’s singing in public, dancing in public, wearing an outlandish t-shirt in public. Perhaps it’s organising a day out wearing ridiculous outfits with friends. Whatever it is, make sure it’s silly, fun and something that you normally would not do.
Being silly in public helps you learn that life is simply about having fun and that social interactions do not have to be daunting or serious. It also enables you to truly show your uniqueness and bring out another side of your personality for the world to see.
Go to networking events There is a lot of stigma around networking events, but in saying that there is also a lot of awesome value. Networking events are everywhere these days and for a range of different purposes. Find a networking event that suits your interests and practice meeting new people. The more that you practice interacting with others and the more you observe others interacting , you will quickly build your social confidence and also enhance your social leadership, allowing you to be more comfortable in expressing who you truly are.
Go to singles events Even if you’re not single, going to single’s events can be a fantastic way of putting yourself out there and practicing your social skills. The good thing is, everyone is there to meet new people and simply have a good time. Sure, you might be spending more time with the opposite sex here, but they make up about 50% of the population so it’s not a bad place to start.
As an added bonus, if you’re single and you’ve developed your social confidence and social leadership, you will most likely walk away with a few dates to come your way!
Be the organizer of events amongst your friends Last but definitely not least, be the organizer of events among your friends. You already have a good relationship with your friends and you will no doubt have social confidence amongst them. Being the organizer of events is a great way of developing your social leadership, allowing you to show your uniqueness and do activities that most interest you and that you feel more comfortable in doing. Your friends will see you as a social leader, also helping you to develop your social confidence.
Having complete social confidence and social leadership is not something that is found overnight. It is built and developed from taking action, putting yourself out there, learning more about yourself and experiencing the world.
WHAT WOMEN WANT? Hormonal predictors of women’s sexual motivation
Women’s mating psychology may have evolved to track reproductive conditions, including conception risk, across and between ovulatory cycles. Alternatively, within-woman correlations between mating psychology and ovarian hormones may be byproducts of between-women relationships. Here, we examined associations between steroid hormones and two facets of sexual psychology with putatively different adaptive functions, sociosexual orientation and general sexual desire, in a sample of naturally cycling women (NC; n = 348, 87 of whom completed 2 sessions) and hormonally contracepting women (HC; n = 266, 65 of whom completed 2 sessions). Across two sessions, increases in estradiol predicted elevated sociosexual desires in NC women, and this relationship was stronger in women whose progesterone simultaneously decreased across sessions. Changes in hormones were not associated with changes in general sexual desire. Between-subjects differences in testosterone robustly, positively predicted sociosexuality and general sexual desire among NC women. Hormones were not consistently related to changes or differences in sexual psychology among HC women. The present results are consistent with testosterone contributing to individual differences, or modulating relatively long-term changes, in women’s mating psychology. Further, our within-woman findings are consistent with the hypothesis that shifts in women’s mating psychology may function to secure genetic benefits, and that these shifts are not byproducts of between-women associations.
A Sheriff in a small town in Texas walks out in the street and sees a blond haired cowboy coming toward him with nothing on but his cowboy hat, his gun and his boots. He arrests him for indecent exposure. As he is locking him up, he asks, ‘Why in the world are you walking around like this?’
The cowboy says, ‘Well it’s like this Sheriff ……
I was in this bar down the road and this pretty little redhead asks me to go out to her motorhome with her. So I did.
We go inside and she pulls off her top and asks me to pull off my shirt… So I did.
Then she pulls off her skirt and asks me to pull off my pants…. So I did.
Then she pulls off her panties and asks me to pull off my shorts…so I did.
Then she gets on the bed and looks at me kind of sexy and says, ‘Now go to town, cowboy.’
“CAN YOU EVER GET TOO MUCH PICKLE!” a poem, celebrating “International Pickle Week!” a.k.a.: “Going Green!” February 18, 2019 – Moon Day
(Painting: “Nude on a Couch” 1890 by Gustave Caillebotte)
The Pickle Lover [courting a mild allergic reaction!]:
“The way you love me thrills me so, I’m titillated – from head to toe! I am vibrating all-over-the-place; You make me swell – and flush my face; I’m-bursting at the seams, I AM! Pickle me up, I-love-to-jam, You down my throat! I want MORE, please; Crunchy! Salty! I’m on my knees! We’ll dance around, in love-filled joy, And roll [embraced]! I CAN’T BE COY! Yet, wait a moment, my green lover!”
She-dashed from the room! I “unscrewed” my cover,* I plopped from the jar, a-seeking her! She-was-on the couch! She did-not stir! She lay there, lovely – and passed out! I guess the-excitement had been too “stout!” So-I-painted-her-there, as she lay, Upon the couch, in my green, green way!