Whether you are conscious of it or not, the fact remains that you are attracting these thoughts in your mind. You can blame your life situation, and circumstances, as much as you want but the truth still remains that it’s you that’s ultimately attracting these negative situations. No one wants to attract a negative reality, but when we are unconscious of the negative patterns in us, this is all we end up doing.
You are the magnet that attracts your reality
Look at your body as an energy field and now try to sense the content of this energy – is it positive or is it negative? Positive energy field feels like lightness, joy, peace, love and zero resistance. Negative energy field feels like depression, anger, powerlessness and despondency. Negative energies always stem from fear. The only reason there’s fear in your being is because you are disconnected from the reality of life, from the truth of life.
Negative energies attract a negative reality. For example, if you are depressed, you end up attracting more reasons and situations to feel depressed about. This seems highly unfair to the “Me” that life should be so screwed up as to give more depression to a person who is already depressed. The truth however is that law of attraction is the operating principle of creation in this universe. Consciousness creates reality by “attracting” it.
In simple terms, consciousness is an “attraction” based force. Consciousness does not “repel” anything. So if your consciousness is full of negative thoughts, you will end up attracting more negative thoughts, and eventually start attracting a highly negative reality. Even if your chronic thought is that “I don’t want cancer”, since you are focusing on cancer, and since the thought is ridden with fear, it’s a given that you will end up attracting a reality that reflects this fear back at you. The universal force does not respond to your “Words” it responds to the “Energy” behind the words.
The thoughts in your mind attract more thoughts like it
Get this – “A thought, when given attention, starts thinking more thoughts”. Each thought is a form of consciousness and it has the capacity to “attract” onto itself. So when a negative thought arises in your mind, it has the capacity to attract more negative thoughts. The fuel for a thought is “attention”. A thought cannot survive without your attention. In the absence of attention, a thought simply loses its force and dies back into the nothingness from which it arose.
If your head feels full of negative thoughts, to an extent where you feel highly overwhelmed by them, it’s simply because you have been feeding attention to these thoughts unconsciously and have ended up strengthening them tremendously. Now these negative thoughts have the capacity to attract a negative reality.
Starve the negative thoughts by removing your attention
The only way to be free of the overwhelming momentum of the negative thoughts in your mind, is to start starving them by not giving them “attention” anymore. Remember that no thought is self employed, and it needs your attention to sustain itself. If you stop giving attention to the negative thoughts when they arise, they will start losing momentum automatically and stop coming up with such a force. With time there will be huge spaces between thoughts and no thought will have any power over your being.
Thoughts are meant to be creative forces, and they can only serve this purpose when they arise from a place of love and abundance. The space of your being has the capacity to generate creative thoughts, but it’s not possible for these thoughts to become active in you unless you clear your mind of the cloud created by your “conditioned” thinking (which is always based in fear).
Initially it can feel uncomfortable to not pay attention to a thought
Initially, it can be quite unsettling to not pay attention when a negative thought arises. Each thought tries to clamor for attention because by its very nature it’s a “pulling” force or an “attraction” based force. So each thought tries to attract your attention, more so if it already has a lot of momentum going for it from your past attention. It might feel uncomfortable, and even fearful, to not pay attention to these thoughts when they arise.
In some people, a lot of panic arises, when they try to remove their attention from a negative thought. In a way you are addicted to your thinking mind, and to remove attention from it can activate withdrawal symptoms like panic, anxiety and nervousness. These feelings may become more dominant if you are trying to “force” your attention away from the mind. The secret is to not “force” the attention away from thoughts, but to ease it away. It’s all about relaxing your focus.
Relax your attention, and free your consciousness
The most natural way to move your attention away from thoughts is to simply relax your awareness. Open your focus instead of contracting it. Attention in a way is “focused” awareness. What’s really needed is that you “de-focus” your awareness, relax it, and don’t contract it on any thought. Just sit back, relax and let your awareness be free. Can you can sense that you are constantly trying control and focus your attention, instead of letting go of it? That’s a form of control that needs to be let go of so that wholeness can flower through.
It’s helpful to just sit by yourself, alone, and practice relaxing your attention away from the mind. It might be difficult to do this initially if you are in a noisy, or crowded, environment. It’s all about letting go of the addiction to your thinking mind, and coming back to wholeness where your awareness is “free” of the conditioned mind.
Effective ways out of the negativity.
1. Discover the Roots of Your Negative Thoughts and Beliefs
The first thing you now need to do is to find out where exactly your negativity is coming from. It’s not uncommon that people recognize something other than the actual root cause for their negative thinking patterns, or they just see the symptom, and treat the wrong thing.
To find out exactly what needs to be fixed in your belief system, please see our article about releasing negative beliefs – it has some effective tips and techniques you can use as a way to dig out what keeps you from being positive. For many people, just becoming aware of the thoughts that are holding them back is enough to defeat them, because the very reason that these negative beliefs have power over us is often the fact that we’re not aware of their existence; once we become aware of it, we may discover that it’s completely ridiculous, and that there’s no reason to hold on to it.
2. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
EFT is a powerful technique for taking back control of your mood, thoughts and emotions, so that, instead of instinctively reacting to events or people, you can be free to use your emotional energy the way you want to, and when you want to.
EFT involves making notes of the shifts in your emotions, and after a while, when you have collected some “records“, you will be able to identify the situations when you are most susceptible to falling down emotionally, and to replace them with the positive thoughts. EFT traditionally involves tapping specific points on the body (as a form of mental acupuncture) and repeating positive affirmations. You can learn more about this technique in this article.
3. Choose to Simply Stop
This technique is very simple: when you recognize a negative thought or reaction appearing in your mind, simply choose to stop thinking and feeling it.
It’s always your choice what you will think and feel, so this is a reasonable advice; however, some people are having more trouble than others with simply choosing to stop, so we recommend that you add some visualization to this: make it a routine to imagine that your thoughts are like a river, or like TV, and when a negative ones pop up, simply put them back to the river and let them go away, or switch the TV channel to something more positive.
4. Caricaturize Them
The last technique is also very simple, although it requires some creativity on your part: if something is bothering you so much that you can’t shake it off, then make up a story that will make it even worse, but that is so unbelievable that your mind will immediately dismiss it.
For example, if you’re having a hard time because you can’t afford to buy a house, you can affirm that it’s a very difficult situation indeed, that soon you won’t have a roof over your head, no place to sleep, actually you probably don’t have enough money to buy food and bills for the next month – and so on. If you felt down about not having enough money to buy a house, then taking it this far will make your mind realize that you feeling bad about the lack of money is completely ridiculous, and that there’s actually nothing to feel bad about.